Joy

There are those who give joy, and that joy is their reward. -Kahlil Gibran

Friendship

Sometimes in life there really are bonds formed that can never be broken. Sometimes you really can find that one person who will stand by you no matter what. Maybe you will find it in a spouse and celebrate it with your dream wedding. But there's also the chance that the one person you can count on for a lifetime, the one person who knows you sometimes better than you know yourself is the same person who's been standing beside you all along.

- Quoted from the movie, "Bride Wars"
 

Marriage

Most of us consider marriage a huge step, possibly one of the biggest steps that, we will ever take, second perhaps only to having children. When one is about to get married everyone keeps talking about how life is going to change. They keep stressing how life as you know it is now over!

The thing is - Marriage is what you make of it. The ceremony is purely symbolic, and it doesn't really change anything. Marriage doesn’t make you more committed; people need to be completely committed to each other in their minds and hearts before they even think of getting married. Marriage is after all just a piece of paper that makes things official.

While marriage does change your life, it is because any serious relationship is life-changing. Marriage shouldn't be about losing freedom and losing yourself. If marriage means losing privileges or rights, and forgetting who you are as a person and what you stand for, then maybe the entire relationship needs to be questioned. Relationships are about respect and understanding not about rules and control.

Marriage is a union between two people who really want to be together, who love and support each other, and help each other reach their individual goals and dreams. I think far too many people feel like they're supposed to get married, so they get married.Getting married and having children are huge decisions, it always surprises me how little thought some people give these decisions.Marriage is something that's personal to each of us, since it is a very big step in our lives and in the end affects us the most. People shouldn't feel pressured into marriage or relationships by family, friends or society.

If people marry because they think that is what is expected of them and not because they truly love each other, then marriage becomes so much harder. Relationships are difficult even when you love each other more than anything. Perfect relationships don’t exist, neither do perfect people. Everyone has their flaws. That’s why it’s important to accept people for who they are and support them in becoming who they want to be. While it’s important to marry someone you can talk to, it’s probably more important to marry someone you can be silent with. A good relationship needs trust, patience, compromise, communication, forgiveness and most importantly love. 

 Love is what makes it all worthwhile. It is wonderful to have someone with whom you can share your hopes for the future, your dreams and the many disappointments life throws at you. When something good happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your happiness. When you are sad, you know they will cheer you up. When you are worried, you know they will listen and comfort you. Having someone special to share all the important milestones makes life so much better.

Without love, marriage is meaningless and making the relationship work would be virtually impossible. And yes, love is what makes all the annoying habits and idiosyncrasies of your spouse bearable. Love makes you take a deep breath, count to ten and try to look at things from their point of view. Relationships aren’t easy; they need a lot of work. Without love, working through differences, finding a compromise and moving forward would be extremely difficult.

 So is marriage worth it in the end? Sure it is a challenge to communicate, to understand one another; to learn to live with each other, to respect each other’s needs and wants, there are struggles to handle finances and divide the workload. Yet, somehow it is still one of the most meaningful and important adult relationships that most of us will ever have.

Trust

Trust is like a mirror, once broken you can never look at it the same.

New Love

The deep joy we take in the company of people with whom we have just recently fallen in love is  undisguisable.

- John Cheever 

Time

Time is too slow for those who wait, too swift for those who fear, too long for those who grieve, too short for those who rejoice, but for those who love, time is eternity.

-Henry Van Dyke

Peace of mind

You'll never find peace of mind until you listen to your heart.

- George Michael

Indifference

Desire is half of life; indifference is half of death. -Kahlil Gibran

Cruelty

A beast does not know that he is a beast, and the nearer a man gets to being a beast, the less he knows it. -George MacDonald

Unhappiness

Man can only endure a certain degree of unhappiness; what is beyond that either annihilates him or passes by him and leaves him apathetic. -Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

 

True Love

You only need ONE man to love you.

 But to love you with a passion like wild fire, love you with an intensity you desire, love you with joyful abandon, love you in a crazy fashion, love you with sincerity and love you incessantly.

 Love you a little too much, a little too often and a little more each day!

All this and only ONE man.

A good love

A good love is one that sets you ablaze, that ignites your bones, that propels you forward, and turns all your dreams into reality.

Memories

The harder I try to forget the more clearly I remember.

Growing up

There is always one moment in childhood when the door opens and lets the future in.

- Graham Greene

Boredom

Boredom : the desire for desires.

-Leo Tolstoy

Goodbye

Is this how you want it to end? No more kisses, hugs or cuddles?

Is it time to say goodbye? Are you happy with the way things turned out?

Are you even the least bit sad? Are you hurting as much as I am?

I keep wondering how it all turned so bad. Is this what you really wanted?

Are you happy to let go? I guess I’ll never truly know.

Now I need to erase the memories and everything you meant to me.

I guess I have no reason to hold on, if there is no more you and me.

Rejection

"I gave him my heart, and he took and pinched it to death; and flung it back to me. People feel with their hearts, Ellen, and since he has destroyed mine, I have not power to feel for him."

- Emily Bronte, Wuthering Heights

Love

Love is just a word until someone comes along and gives it meaning.

Anniversary

Happy Anniversary to the one I’ll always want, even when I’m too old to remember what I’m supposed to want you for!!! ;)

-Dedicated to my gorgeous husband

Omission

Lies of omission are every bit as bad as lies of commission.

-Gary Peck

Changes after marriage

When a girl marries she exchanges the attentions of many men for the inattention of one.

 -Helen Rowland

Marriage

Marriage is like a phone call in the night: first the ring, and then you wake up!

- Evelyn Hendrickson

I've learned.....

·         I’ve learned that we are responsible for what we say and do, no matter how we feel.

·         I’ve learned that you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be lovable. The rest is up to them.

·         I’ve learned that some people forget when they are angry, that they have the right to be angry, but not the right to be cruel.

·         I’ve learned that no matter how bad your heart is broken, the world doesn’t stop for your grief.

·         I’ve learned that just because two people argue it doesn’t mean that they don’t love each other. And just because two people don’t argue, it doesn’t mean they do.

·         I’ve learned that no matter how much I care, some people just can’t be bothered.

·         I’ve learned it’s not what happens to people that’s important, it’s how they deal with it.

·         I’ve learned that no matter how you look at it, there are always two sides.

·         I’ve learned that if I’m quiet when others are screaming, then eventually they will stop.

·         I’ve learned that forgiving someone isn’t easy, especially when they’ve hurt you deeply, but sometimes it’s the only way you can move on.

·         I’ve learned that two people can look at the same thing and see something totally different.

·         I’ve learned that writing eases my pain and sadness.

·         I’ve learned that it’s harder to burn calories than refrain from consuming them.

·         I’ve learned that when people yell at me I stop listening.

·         I’ve learned that nobody has it all figured out.

·         I’ve learned that those who complain the most, accomplish the least.

·         I’ve learned revenge is for the petty.

·         I’ve learned that some people have the urge to punish others and it has more to do with venting frustration than correcting behaviour.

·         I’ve learned that sometimes all a person needs is someone to hold their hand and listen intently.

·         I’ve learned that I can’t choose how I feel, but I can choose what I do about it.

 

Love, Joy & Pain

Love is a feeling that brings both joy and pain. Joy from being with someone special whom you deeply care about and pain from knowing that they now have the power to hurt you more than ever.

-Poppy
 

Acceptance & Understanding

Home is not where you live, but where they understand you. -Christian Morganstern

Home

The ache for home lives in all of us, the safe place where we can go as we are and not be questioned.

-Maya Angelou

Hope

We must accept finite disappointment, but never lose infinite hope.

-Martin Luther King Jr.
 

Courage

True strength is keeping everything together when everyone expects you to fall apart.

Sadness

One must not let oneself be overwhelmed by sadness.

-Jackie Kennedy

 

 

Anger

Anger is just a cowardly extension of sadness. It's a lot easier to be angry at someone than it is to tell them you're hurt. -Tom Gates

Despair

Only a man who has felt ultimate despair is capable of feeling ultimate bliss.

-Alexandre Dumas

Love

Love has made me stronger,
Made me want to live a little longer,
Love has made me wiser,
Made me want to be a little nicer,

Love has made me smile,
Made living worthwhile,
Love has made me kind,
Made me more refined,

Love has made me patient,
Made me more complaisant,
Love has taught me respect,
Made me want to reflect,

But times can get tough,
And things can get quite rough,
Love seems like a game,
And there is no one to blame,
But when you take my hand,
There is nothing I can’t withstand,

The road isn’t easy,
The path isn’t always straight,
Love sometimes makes me queasy,
And it isn’t all one big date,

But with you beside me each day,
I know that we can find a way,
For the best is yet to come,
I’d rather not be glum,

As I look ahead,
I think of all that’s been done and said,
You’ve given me a world of dreams,
And when I speak about unconditional love,
At least I finally know what it means…..

-Poppy

You

When I first met you,
I felt my heart melt through,
When you looked at me,
I knew I would never be free,

You captured my soul,
I was under your spell,
For the first time in my life,
I was dizzy as hell,

When you touched me,
It felt so right,
When you kissed me,
I was filled with delight,

You swept me off my feet,
I finally felt complete,
I had waited a lifetime for this,
One gorgeous moment of bliss,

A feeling I could not explain,
A passion I could not contain,
No longer was I alone,
Finally I was home!

-Poppy

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The Vow

I vow to always hold you in tenderness and to love you now and forever. I promise to never forget that this is a once in a lifetime love. And no matter what challenges may carry us a part, I believe we will always find a way back to each other...

-Paraphrased from the movie, 'The Vow'.

You are the reason why....

Even when i'm sad, I smile...

Even when I'm confused, I try to understand...

Even when I'm worried, I hope...

Even though I've been betrayed in the past, I trust...

Even when I fear pain, I love...

Nothing is quite what it seems.....

What if everything around you isn't quite what it seems?
What if all the world you think you know is an elaborate dream?
And if you look at your reflection, is that all you want to be?
What if you could look right through the cracks?
Would you find yourself... find yourself afraid to see?

What if all the world's inside of your head?
Just creations of your own...
Your devils and your gods and the living and the dead
And you really are alone
You can live in this illusion
You can choose to believe
You keep looking but you can't find words
Are you hiding in the trees?

What if everything around you isn't quite what it seems?


-Quoted from "Right Where it Belongs" by Nine Inch Nails

Favorite Songs - July 2012

1. Fall – ED Sheeran
2. Other side of the world – KT Tunstall
3. Somebody that I used to know – Goyte
4. Set fire to the rain –Adele
5. Someone like you – Adele
6. Changed the way you kiss me – Example
7. Wherever you will go – Charlene Soraia
8. Love the way you lie – Eminem & Rihanna
9. Give me everything – Pitbull
10. Hangover – Taio Cruz
11. Gold forever – The Wanted
12. Sexy and I know it – LMFAO
13. Little bad girl - David Guetta
14. We found love – Rihanna
15. Down for whatever – Kelly Rowland
16. I’m into you – Jennifer Lopez
17. Mr Saxobeat – Alexandra Stan
18. Glad you came – The Wanted
19. Grenade – Bruno Mars
20. Timebomb – Kylie Minogue

Expectations

I just realised that the lower my expectations, the happier I am. Atleast this way I can be pleasantly surprised instead of being sorely disappointed.

Happiness

Happiness will never come to those who cannot appreciate what they already have.

Life

Sometimes life isn't about what you want to do, but rather what you ought to do.

Missing you

"I miss you a little,

I guess you could say,

a little too much,

a little too often,

and a little more each day!"

-In Memory of my father on his 8th Death Anniversary