| There are those who give joy, and that joy is their reward. -Kahlil Gibran | |
Sunday, December 23, 2012
Saturday, December 22, 2012
Friendship
Sometimes in life there really are bonds formed that can never be broken. Sometimes you really can find that one person who will stand by you no matter what. Maybe you will find it in a spouse and celebrate it with your dream wedding. But there's also the chance that the one person you can count on for a lifetime, the one person who knows you sometimes better than you know yourself is the same person who's been standing beside you all along.
- Quoted from the movie, "Bride Wars"
- Quoted from the movie, "Bride Wars"
Marriage
Most of us consider marriage a huge step, possibly one of the biggest steps that, we will ever take, second perhaps only to having children. When one is about to get married everyone keeps talking about how life is going to change. They keep stressing how life as you know it is now over!
The thing is - Marriage is what you make of it. The ceremony is purely symbolic, and it doesn't really change anything. Marriage doesn’t make you more committed; people need to be completely committed to each other in their minds and hearts before they even think of getting married. Marriage is after all just a piece of paper that makes things official.
While marriage does change your life, it is because any serious relationship is life-changing. Marriage shouldn't be about losing freedom and losing yourself. If marriage means losing privileges or rights, and forgetting who you are as a person and what you stand for, then maybe the entire relationship needs to be questioned. Relationships are about respect and understanding not about rules and control.
Marriage is a union between two people who really want to be together, who love and support each other, and help each other reach their individual goals and dreams. I think far too many people feel like they're supposed to get married, so they get married.Getting married and having children are huge decisions, it always surprises me how little thought some people give these decisions.Marriage is something that's personal to each of us, since it is a very big step in our lives and in the end affects us the most. People shouldn't feel pressured into marriage or relationships by family, friends or society.
If people marry because they think that is what is expected of them and not because they truly love each other, then marriage becomes so much harder. Relationships are difficult even when you love each other more than anything. Perfect relationships don’t exist, neither do perfect people. Everyone has their flaws. That’s why it’s important to accept people for who they are and support them in becoming who they want to be. While it’s important to marry someone you can talk to, it’s probably more important to marry someone you can be silent with. A good relationship needs trust, patience, compromise, communication, forgiveness and most importantly love.
Love is what makes it all worthwhile. It is wonderful to have someone with whom you can share your hopes for the future, your dreams and the many disappointments life throws at you. When something good happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your happiness. When you are sad, you know they will cheer you up. When you are worried, you know they will listen and comfort you. Having someone special to share all the important milestones makes life so much better.
Without love, marriage is meaningless and making the relationship work would be virtually impossible. And yes, love is what makes all the annoying habits and idiosyncrasies of your spouse bearable. Love makes you take a deep breath, count to ten and try to look at things from their point of view. Relationships aren’t easy; they need a lot of work. Without love, working through differences, finding a compromise and moving forward would be extremely difficult.
So is marriage worth it in the end? Sure it is a challenge to communicate, to understand one another; to learn to live with each other, to respect each other’s needs and wants, there are struggles to handle finances and divide the workload. Yet, somehow it is still one of the most meaningful and important adult relationships that most of us will ever have.
The thing is - Marriage is what you make of it. The ceremony is purely symbolic, and it doesn't really change anything. Marriage doesn’t make you more committed; people need to be completely committed to each other in their minds and hearts before they even think of getting married. Marriage is after all just a piece of paper that makes things official.
While marriage does change your life, it is because any serious relationship is life-changing. Marriage shouldn't be about losing freedom and losing yourself. If marriage means losing privileges or rights, and forgetting who you are as a person and what you stand for, then maybe the entire relationship needs to be questioned. Relationships are about respect and understanding not about rules and control.
Marriage is a union between two people who really want to be together, who love and support each other, and help each other reach their individual goals and dreams. I think far too many people feel like they're supposed to get married, so they get married.Getting married and having children are huge decisions, it always surprises me how little thought some people give these decisions.Marriage is something that's personal to each of us, since it is a very big step in our lives and in the end affects us the most. People shouldn't feel pressured into marriage or relationships by family, friends or society.
If people marry because they think that is what is expected of them and not because they truly love each other, then marriage becomes so much harder. Relationships are difficult even when you love each other more than anything. Perfect relationships don’t exist, neither do perfect people. Everyone has their flaws. That’s why it’s important to accept people for who they are and support them in becoming who they want to be. While it’s important to marry someone you can talk to, it’s probably more important to marry someone you can be silent with. A good relationship needs trust, patience, compromise, communication, forgiveness and most importantly love.
Love is what makes it all worthwhile. It is wonderful to have someone with whom you can share your hopes for the future, your dreams and the many disappointments life throws at you. When something good happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your happiness. When you are sad, you know they will cheer you up. When you are worried, you know they will listen and comfort you. Having someone special to share all the important milestones makes life so much better.
Without love, marriage is meaningless and making the relationship work would be virtually impossible. And yes, love is what makes all the annoying habits and idiosyncrasies of your spouse bearable. Love makes you take a deep breath, count to ten and try to look at things from their point of view. Relationships aren’t easy; they need a lot of work. Without love, working through differences, finding a compromise and moving forward would be extremely difficult.
So is marriage worth it in the end? Sure it is a challenge to communicate, to understand one another; to learn to live with each other, to respect each other’s needs and wants, there are struggles to handle finances and divide the workload. Yet, somehow it is still one of the most meaningful and important adult relationships that most of us will ever have.
Friday, December 14, 2012
New Love
The deep joy we take in the company of people with whom we have just recently fallen in love is undisguisable.
- John Cheever
- John Cheever
Thursday, December 13, 2012
Time
Time is too slow for those who wait, too swift for those who fear, too long for those who grieve, too short for those who rejoice, but for those who love, time is eternity.
-Henry Van Dyke
-Henry Van Dyke
Sunday, December 09, 2012
Cruelty
| A beast does not know that he is a beast, and the nearer a man gets to being a beast, the less he knows it. -George MacDonald | |
Unhappiness
| Man can only endure a certain degree of unhappiness; what is beyond that either annihilates him or passes by him and leaves him apathetic. -Johann Wolfgang von Goethe | |
Saturday, December 01, 2012
True Love
You only need ONE man to love you.
But to love you with a passion like wild fire, love you with an intensity you desire, love you with joyful abandon, love you in a crazy fashion, love you with sincerity and love you incessantly.
Love you a little too much, a little too often and a little more each day!
All this and only ONE man.
But to love you with a passion like wild fire, love you with an intensity you desire, love you with joyful abandon, love you in a crazy fashion, love you with sincerity and love you incessantly.
Love you a little too much, a little too often and a little more each day!
All this and only ONE man.
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