Consequences

There aren’t many sure things in life, but one thing I know for sure is

that you have to deal with the consequences of your actions. You have to follow

through on some things.

― Cecelia Ahern, Love, Rosie

Dreams, Hopes, Ambitions

It's funny because when you're a child, you believe you can be anything you want to be, go wherever you want to go. There's no limit to what you can dream. You expect the unexpected, you believe in magic, in fairy tales, and in possibilities. Then you grow older and that innocence is shattered and somewhere along the way the reality of life gets in the way and you're hit by the realization that you can't be all you wanted to be, you just might have to settle for a little bit less.

Or perhaps a variation of what you once wanted.

Why do we stop believing in ourselves? Why do we let facts and figures and anything but dreams rule our lives?

― Cecelia Ahern, Love, Rosie

Love

You deserve someone who loves you with every single beat of his heart, someone who thinks about you constantly, someone who spends every minute of every day just wondering what you're doing, where you are, who you're with, and if you're OK.  You need someone who can help you reach your dreams and protect you from your fears. You need someone who will treat you with respect, love every part of you, especially your flaws. You should be with someone who could make you happy, really happy, dancing on air happy.

-Cecelia Ahern, Love, Rosie

Thought for the day!

There are innumerable mysteries to the universe. But who we are, is not one of them.
That answer lies inside us.


- Transformers: Age of Extinction

Caring for the Elderly

To care for those who once cared for us is one of the highest honours.
If only more people realised that! 

Life

Sometimes the hardest things in life are the things most worth doing.
-Castle, Season 6, Episode 2

Good manners

The test of good manners is to be patient with the bad ones.
-Solomon Ibn Gabirol

True Love

A person who truly loves you is someone who sees the pain in your eyes while everyone else still believes the smile on your face.

Nastiness

When someone is nasty, petty, small minded or treats you poorly, don't take it personally. It says nothing about you but a lot about them!

Despair

When I despair, I try to remember that all through history, people have overcome adversity to achieve great things and eventually the path of truth, kindness and love has always won. There have been tyrants who have seemed invincible, but in the end they have been defeated. For we draw strength from the very despair in which we have been forced to live. If we continue, we shall endure and eventually triumph!

Anger & Intolerance

Anger and intolerance are the enemies of correct understanding.

-Mahatma Gandhi

Stubbornness & Stupidity

Stubborn and ardent clinging to one's opinion is the best proof of stupidity!

-Michel De Montaigne

Pride

When you are full of pride on the inside, it makes you stiff, stubborn and creates strife with others.

-John C, Maxwell

Happy Endings

What's a great love story without obstacles to overcome? Every fairy-tale has them.
You can't give up. That's the deal.
We want the happy ending, we can't give up.


-Castle, Season 6 Finale

Grief

Grief is like a foreign country whose customs and language you can only grasp once you have lived there.

- Maddy Paxman 

Importance of Life

What makes life valuable is that it doesn't last forever, what makes it precious is that it ends.....

-The Amazing Spiderman 2 

Happiness

Everybody wants happiness,
Nobody wants pain,
But you can't have a rainbow,
Without a little rain!

Vision

Vision without action is a daydream. Action without vision is a nightmare.

-Japanese Proverb

Disappointment

Disappointments are inevitable but misery is optional. 

Daddy

It's been 10 years since I lost my dad, but to me he will always be a star.
A shining example of what a father and man should be.
He never told me how to live my life, but he lived life to the fullest and showed me how.
And I am not ashamed to say that no man I have ever met was my fathers equal.

Love you daddy, now and always!

- In loving memory of my father on his 10th death anniversary. 

Thought for the day!

Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass, it's about learning how to dance in the rain. 

Moving On

Close some doors. Not because of pride or incapacity or arrogance, but simply because they no longer lead anywhere.

- Paulo Coelho

About losing

Nothing is ever lost, we just look in the wrong place. 

Purpose in Life

Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can't help them, at least don't hurt them.

- Dalai Lama 

Defensiveness

Defensiveness is usually someone silently screaming that they need you to value and respect them. 

Life Partners

I no longer believe in the idea of soul mates, or love at first sight. But I am beginning to believe that, if you are lucky, you might meet someone who is exactly right for you. Not because he is perfect, or because you are, but because your combined flaws are arranged in a way that allows two separate beings to fit together as one!

Love

To love at all is to be vulnerable.
Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken.
If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one, not even an animal.
Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements.
Lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness.
But in that casket, safe, dark, motionless, airless, it will change.
It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable.
To love is to be vulnerable. 

― C.S. Lewis, The Four Loves   

Gratitude

Gratitude is what makes what we have enough.

Character

The true measure of a man is what he does for those who can do nothing for him!

Stress

Reality is the leading cause of stress among those in touch with it.

-Lily Tomlin

Success

It's a funny thing about life; if you refuse to accept anything but the best, you very often get it.

-William Somerset Maugham

Dad

Thank you for always believing in me, being proud of me and loving me unconditionally. Even though you are no longer with me, I always feel you by my side. You have given me precious memories which I will always cherish.

I love you Dad, now and always!

- In loving memory of my father on his 9th death anniversary

Favorite Songs

1. As it seems – Lily Kershaw
2.  I’ve got you – Mc Fly
3. Dream – Priscilla Ahn
4.  I won’t give up – Jason Mraz
5. Youth – Foxes
6. Everybody talks – Neon Trees
7. Freedom – Dido
8.  Running up that hill – Bo Bruce
9. Whistle – Flo rida
10. Payphone- Maroon 5
11. Diamonds – Rihanna
12.  Next to me – Emeli Sande

Friendship

Sometimes we think our job is to prevent our loved ones from falling down, but maybe our job is to pick them up when they do fall down.

Change

Sometimes the hardest part isn't letting go, but rather learning to start over.

-Nicole Sobon

Actions & Consequences

Every action you take is a choice you make. You'll never succeed in changing your life unless you change your choices.

Joy

Never let anyone steal your happiness, joy or zest for life. Life is too precious to waste it on negative people.

Life

Life is like an onion: you peel it off one layer at a time, and sometimes you weep.

-Carl Sandburg

Luck

Luck is a matter of preparation meeting opportunity.

-Lucius Annaeus Seneca

Real Love

Real love is an acceptance of all that is, has been, will be and will not be.

Relationships

We accept the love we think we deserve.

-Stephen Chbosky, The Perks of being a Wallflower

Live a life that matters

Live a life that matters,
Ready or not, someday it will all come to an end.
There will be no more sunrises, no minutes, hours or days.
All the things you collected, whether treasured or forgotten, will pass to someone else.
Your wealth, fame and temporal power will shrivel to irrelevance.
It will not matter what you owned or what you were owed.
Your grudges, resentments, frustrations, and jealousies will finally disappear.
So, too, your hopes, ambitions, plans and to-do lists will expire.
The wins and losses that one day seemed so important will fade away.
It won't matter where you came from, or on what side of the tracks you lived, at the end.
It won't matter whether you were beautiful or brilliant,
Even your gender and skin color will be irrelevant.

So what will matter?
How will the value of your days be measured?

What will matter is not what you bought, but what you built; not what you got, but what you gave.
What will matter is not your success,but your significance.
What will matter is not what you learned, but what you taught.
What will matter is every act of integrity, compassion, courage or sacrifice that enriched, empowered or encouraged others to emulate your example.
What will matter is not your competence, but your character.
What will matter is not how many people you knew, but how many will feel a lasting loss when you're gone.
What will matter is not your memories, but the memories that live in those who loved you.
What will matter is how long you will be remembered, by whom and for what.

Living a life that matters doesn't happen by accident.
It's not a matter of circumstance, but of choice.
Choose to live a life that matters!

-Author unknown

Regrets

Regrets for the things said and the things left unsaid,
Regrets for opportunities missed and time wasted,
Regrets for people one always meant to get in touch with, but didn't,
Regrets for things you were planning to do, but didn't,
Need to seize the moment and live life to the fullest,
So that in the end we aren't left only with regrets...

Wish

May you always have in your arms, the one who is in your heart!

Endings

There is a universal truth we all have to face, whether we want to or not, everything eventually ends. As much as I've looked forward to this day, I've always disliked endings. The last day of summer, the final chapter of a great book, parting ways with a close friend.... But endings are inevitable. Leaves fall, you close the book, you say goodbye. Today is one of those days for us. Today we say goodbye to everything that was familiar, everything that was comfortable. We're moving on. But just because we're leaving and that hurts, there's some people who are so much a part of us, they'll be with us no matter what. They are our solid ground. Our north star. And the small clear voices in our hearts that will be with us....Always.

-Alexis Castle's graduation speech from Castle Season 4 Finale

On being dignified

To be hurt and then have to suffer in silence or pretend to be happy is a travesty.

On being Content

If we do not feel grateful for what we already have, what makes us think we'd be happy with more?

-Unknown

Life

Enjoy the little things in life.....for one day you'll look back and realise they were the big things.

-Robert Brault

Happiness

Happiness is not a destination, it's a way of life!

Appreciation

Learn to appreciate the things you have before time forces you to appreciate the things you once had.

 - Lou Holtz

Choices

Ultimately all people choose their own path. They can be directed and pushed, but they always get the final choice.

Parents

Every girl may not be a Queen to her husband, but she is always a Princess to her parents!

Perfection

People throw away what they could have by insisting on perfection, which they cannot have, and looking for it where they will never find it.

- Edith Schaeffer

Hope

    When things are bad, we take comfort in the thought that they could always be worse. And when they are, we find hope in the thought that things are so bad they have to get better.
 

Positive Thinking

We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars. -Oscar Wilde

Dreams

Do not lose hold of your dreams or aspirations. For if you do, you may still exist but you have ceased to live. - Henry David Thoreau

Joy

There are those who give joy, and that joy is their reward. -Kahlil Gibran

Friendship

Sometimes in life there really are bonds formed that can never be broken. Sometimes you really can find that one person who will stand by you no matter what. Maybe you will find it in a spouse and celebrate it with your dream wedding. But there's also the chance that the one person you can count on for a lifetime, the one person who knows you sometimes better than you know yourself is the same person who's been standing beside you all along.

- Quoted from the movie, "Bride Wars"
 

Marriage

Most of us consider marriage a huge step, possibly one of the biggest steps that, we will ever take, second perhaps only to having children. When one is about to get married everyone keeps talking about how life is going to change. They keep stressing how life as you know it is now over!

The thing is - Marriage is what you make of it. The ceremony is purely symbolic, and it doesn't really change anything. Marriage doesn’t make you more committed; people need to be completely committed to each other in their minds and hearts before they even think of getting married. Marriage is after all just a piece of paper that makes things official.

While marriage does change your life, it is because any serious relationship is life-changing. Marriage shouldn't be about losing freedom and losing yourself. If marriage means losing privileges or rights, and forgetting who you are as a person and what you stand for, then maybe the entire relationship needs to be questioned. Relationships are about respect and understanding not about rules and control.

Marriage is a union between two people who really want to be together, who love and support each other, and help each other reach their individual goals and dreams. I think far too many people feel like they're supposed to get married, so they get married.Getting married and having children are huge decisions, it always surprises me how little thought some people give these decisions.Marriage is something that's personal to each of us, since it is a very big step in our lives and in the end affects us the most. People shouldn't feel pressured into marriage or relationships by family, friends or society.

If people marry because they think that is what is expected of them and not because they truly love each other, then marriage becomes so much harder. Relationships are difficult even when you love each other more than anything. Perfect relationships don’t exist, neither do perfect people. Everyone has their flaws. That’s why it’s important to accept people for who they are and support them in becoming who they want to be. While it’s important to marry someone you can talk to, it’s probably more important to marry someone you can be silent with. A good relationship needs trust, patience, compromise, communication, forgiveness and most importantly love. 

 Love is what makes it all worthwhile. It is wonderful to have someone with whom you can share your hopes for the future, your dreams and the many disappointments life throws at you. When something good happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your happiness. When you are sad, you know they will cheer you up. When you are worried, you know they will listen and comfort you. Having someone special to share all the important milestones makes life so much better.

Without love, marriage is meaningless and making the relationship work would be virtually impossible. And yes, love is what makes all the annoying habits and idiosyncrasies of your spouse bearable. Love makes you take a deep breath, count to ten and try to look at things from their point of view. Relationships aren’t easy; they need a lot of work. Without love, working through differences, finding a compromise and moving forward would be extremely difficult.

 So is marriage worth it in the end? Sure it is a challenge to communicate, to understand one another; to learn to live with each other, to respect each other’s needs and wants, there are struggles to handle finances and divide the workload. Yet, somehow it is still one of the most meaningful and important adult relationships that most of us will ever have.

Trust

Trust is like a mirror, once broken you can never look at it the same.

New Love

The deep joy we take in the company of people with whom we have just recently fallen in love is  undisguisable.

- John Cheever 

Time

Time is too slow for those who wait, too swift for those who fear, too long for those who grieve, too short for those who rejoice, but for those who love, time is eternity.

-Henry Van Dyke

Peace of mind

You'll never find peace of mind until you listen to your heart.

- George Michael

Indifference

Desire is half of life; indifference is half of death. -Kahlil Gibran

Cruelty

A beast does not know that he is a beast, and the nearer a man gets to being a beast, the less he knows it. -George MacDonald

Unhappiness

Man can only endure a certain degree of unhappiness; what is beyond that either annihilates him or passes by him and leaves him apathetic. -Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

 

True Love

You only need ONE man to love you.

 But to love you with a passion like wild fire, love you with an intensity you desire, love you with joyful abandon, love you in a crazy fashion, love you with sincerity and love you incessantly.

 Love you a little too much, a little too often and a little more each day!

All this and only ONE man.

A good love

A good love is one that sets you ablaze, that ignites your bones, that propels you forward, and turns all your dreams into reality.

Memories

The harder I try to forget the more clearly I remember.

Growing up

There is always one moment in childhood when the door opens and lets the future in.

- Graham Greene

Boredom

Boredom : the desire for desires.

-Leo Tolstoy

Goodbye

Is this how you want it to end? No more kisses, hugs or cuddles?

Is it time to say goodbye? Are you happy with the way things turned out?

Are you even the least bit sad? Are you hurting as much as I am?

I keep wondering how it all turned so bad. Is this what you really wanted?

Are you happy to let go? I guess I’ll never truly know.

Now I need to erase the memories and everything you meant to me.

I guess I have no reason to hold on, if there is no more you and me.

Rejection

"I gave him my heart, and he took and pinched it to death; and flung it back to me. People feel with their hearts, Ellen, and since he has destroyed mine, I have not power to feel for him."

- Emily Bronte, Wuthering Heights

Love

Love is just a word until someone comes along and gives it meaning.

Anniversary

Happy Anniversary to the one I’ll always want, even when I’m too old to remember what I’m supposed to want you for!!! ;)

-Dedicated to my gorgeous husband

Omission

Lies of omission are every bit as bad as lies of commission.

-Gary Peck

Changes after marriage

When a girl marries she exchanges the attentions of many men for the inattention of one.

 -Helen Rowland

Marriage

Marriage is like a phone call in the night: first the ring, and then you wake up!

- Evelyn Hendrickson

I've learned.....

·         I’ve learned that we are responsible for what we say and do, no matter how we feel.

·         I’ve learned that you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be lovable. The rest is up to them.

·         I’ve learned that some people forget when they are angry, that they have the right to be angry, but not the right to be cruel.

·         I’ve learned that no matter how bad your heart is broken, the world doesn’t stop for your grief.

·         I’ve learned that just because two people argue it doesn’t mean that they don’t love each other. And just because two people don’t argue, it doesn’t mean they do.

·         I’ve learned that no matter how much I care, some people just can’t be bothered.

·         I’ve learned it’s not what happens to people that’s important, it’s how they deal with it.

·         I’ve learned that no matter how you look at it, there are always two sides.

·         I’ve learned that if I’m quiet when others are screaming, then eventually they will stop.

·         I’ve learned that forgiving someone isn’t easy, especially when they’ve hurt you deeply, but sometimes it’s the only way you can move on.

·         I’ve learned that two people can look at the same thing and see something totally different.

·         I’ve learned that writing eases my pain and sadness.

·         I’ve learned that it’s harder to burn calories than refrain from consuming them.

·         I’ve learned that when people yell at me I stop listening.

·         I’ve learned that nobody has it all figured out.

·         I’ve learned that those who complain the most, accomplish the least.

·         I’ve learned revenge is for the petty.

·         I’ve learned that some people have the urge to punish others and it has more to do with venting frustration than correcting behaviour.

·         I’ve learned that sometimes all a person needs is someone to hold their hand and listen intently.

·         I’ve learned that I can’t choose how I feel, but I can choose what I do about it.

 

Love, Joy & Pain

Love is a feeling that brings both joy and pain. Joy from being with someone special whom you deeply care about and pain from knowing that they now have the power to hurt you more than ever.

-Poppy
 

Acceptance & Understanding

Home is not where you live, but where they understand you. -Christian Morganstern

Home

The ache for home lives in all of us, the safe place where we can go as we are and not be questioned.

-Maya Angelou

Hope

We must accept finite disappointment, but never lose infinite hope.

-Martin Luther King Jr.
 

Courage

True strength is keeping everything together when everyone expects you to fall apart.

Sadness

One must not let oneself be overwhelmed by sadness.

-Jackie Kennedy

 

 

Anger

Anger is just a cowardly extension of sadness. It's a lot easier to be angry at someone than it is to tell them you're hurt. -Tom Gates

Despair

Only a man who has felt ultimate despair is capable of feeling ultimate bliss.

-Alexandre Dumas

Love

Love has made me stronger,
Made me want to live a little longer,
Love has made me wiser,
Made me want to be a little nicer,

Love has made me smile,
Made living worthwhile,
Love has made me kind,
Made me more refined,

Love has made me patient,
Made me more complaisant,
Love has taught me respect,
Made me want to reflect,

But times can get tough,
And things can get quite rough,
Love seems like a game,
And there is no one to blame,
But when you take my hand,
There is nothing I can’t withstand,

The road isn’t easy,
The path isn’t always straight,
Love sometimes makes me queasy,
And it isn’t all one big date,

But with you beside me each day,
I know that we can find a way,
For the best is yet to come,
I’d rather not be glum,

As I look ahead,
I think of all that’s been done and said,
You’ve given me a world of dreams,
And when I speak about unconditional love,
At least I finally know what it means…..

-Poppy

You

When I first met you,
I felt my heart melt through,
When you looked at me,
I knew I would never be free,

You captured my soul,
I was under your spell,
For the first time in my life,
I was dizzy as hell,

When you touched me,
It felt so right,
When you kissed me,
I was filled with delight,

You swept me off my feet,
I finally felt complete,
I had waited a lifetime for this,
One gorgeous moment of bliss,

A feeling I could not explain,
A passion I could not contain,
No longer was I alone,
Finally I was home!

-Poppy

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The Vow

I vow to always hold you in tenderness and to love you now and forever. I promise to never forget that this is a once in a lifetime love. And no matter what challenges may carry us a part, I believe we will always find a way back to each other...

-Paraphrased from the movie, 'The Vow'.

You are the reason why....

Even when i'm sad, I smile...

Even when I'm confused, I try to understand...

Even when I'm worried, I hope...

Even though I've been betrayed in the past, I trust...

Even when I fear pain, I love...

Nothing is quite what it seems.....

What if everything around you isn't quite what it seems?
What if all the world you think you know is an elaborate dream?
And if you look at your reflection, is that all you want to be?
What if you could look right through the cracks?
Would you find yourself... find yourself afraid to see?

What if all the world's inside of your head?
Just creations of your own...
Your devils and your gods and the living and the dead
And you really are alone
You can live in this illusion
You can choose to believe
You keep looking but you can't find words
Are you hiding in the trees?

What if everything around you isn't quite what it seems?


-Quoted from "Right Where it Belongs" by Nine Inch Nails

Favorite Songs - July 2012

1. Fall – ED Sheeran
2. Other side of the world – KT Tunstall
3. Somebody that I used to know – Goyte
4. Set fire to the rain –Adele
5. Someone like you – Adele
6. Changed the way you kiss me – Example
7. Wherever you will go – Charlene Soraia
8. Love the way you lie – Eminem & Rihanna
9. Give me everything – Pitbull
10. Hangover – Taio Cruz
11. Gold forever – The Wanted
12. Sexy and I know it – LMFAO
13. Little bad girl - David Guetta
14. We found love – Rihanna
15. Down for whatever – Kelly Rowland
16. I’m into you – Jennifer Lopez
17. Mr Saxobeat – Alexandra Stan
18. Glad you came – The Wanted
19. Grenade – Bruno Mars
20. Timebomb – Kylie Minogue

Expectations

I just realised that the lower my expectations, the happier I am. Atleast this way I can be pleasantly surprised instead of being sorely disappointed.

Happiness

Happiness will never come to those who cannot appreciate what they already have.

Life

Sometimes life isn't about what you want to do, but rather what you ought to do.

Missing you

"I miss you a little,

I guess you could say,

a little too much,

a little too often,

and a little more each day!"

-In Memory of my father on his 8th Death Anniversary

Destiny

Destiny is something that we've invented because we can't stand the fact that everything that happens is accidental.

- Sleepless in Seattle

Opportunity

Your life is defined by opportunities, even the ones you miss!

-The curious case of Benjamin Button

Loss

We are meant to lose the people we love. How else would we know how important they are to us?

- The curious case of Benjamin Button