Lessons I've learned over the past year

• I've learned that people who have huge egos lose great friends
• I've learned that having expectations just leads to disapppointments
• I've learned that dancing with the devil to make him a saint is a stupid idea
• I've learned that some people are selfish and accepting it is better than trying to change it
• I've learned that help and solace in time of difficulties comes from unexpected sources
• I've learned that crying makes one feel better
• I've learned that good friends know exactly how to cheer you up
• I've learned that getting your heart broken hurts physically as much as it does emotionally
• I've learned that some people are just too stubborn and stupid to change
• I've learnt that class doesn't come from money but from good upbringing and values
• I've learned that no matter how much you do for some people they still treat you like dirt
• I've learned that being a nice person does not ensure that others will be nice to you
• I've learned that a kind word or deed can go a long way in making someone feel good
• I've learned that people who genuinely care are not ashamed to show it
• I've learned not to take what people say at face value
• I've learned that the harder you try to make something work, the greater are the chances of it not working out
• I've learned that people who keep changing their minds are not genuine
• I've learned that you learn something new everyday if you pay enough attention
• I've learned that it is important to learn to let go and move on
• I've learned that some people have no conscience
• I've learned that a hug can make me feel better when nothing else does
• I've learned that people who make you cry and don't feel remorse are not worth bothering about
• I've learned that talking about things always makes me feel better
• I've learned that always apologising for others mistakes and making up is not worth it after a point
• I've learned that some people just cannot admit that they are wrong
• I've learned that consistency in relationships is important to me
• I've learned that I have very strong intuition about people close to me
• I've learned that you never find yourself until you learn to face the truth
• I've learned that if you are unable to find tranquility within yourself it is useless to seek it elsewhere
• I've learned not to trust implicitly
• I've learned that you can sit in a room full of people and still feel lonely
• I've learned that the people that hurt you the most are usually the ones you least expect
• I've learned that some people are insensitive
• I've learned that some people can empathise way better than others
• I've learned that some times comfort can be given without speaking a word
• I've learned that going for a long drive with nice music helps me think and unwind
• I've learned that I cannot live without music
• I've learned that, one should never impose on others what one would not choose for ones self
• I've learned that everything has a moral, the problem is finding it
• I've learned that there are no failures, just experiences and your reactions to them
• I've learned that we are not limited by our abilities, but by our vision
• I've learned that words and ideas can change the world
• I've learned that some times I just need to be on my own
• I've learned that some people can lie without batting an eyelid
• I've learned that I am responsible for my own happiness
• I've learned that if you let people they will take you for granted
• I've learned that people who can't laugh at themselves are hard to live with
• I've learned that learning when to speak and when to keep quiet is extremely important
• I've learned that people who don't communicate are difficult to deal with
• I've learned that words have the power to hurt more than deeds
• I've learned that it hurts to feel

Top Ten Favorite Songs for December

My favorite songs of the month are :-

• Renegade - ATB
• Let Go -Paul Van Dyke
• Fields of Love -ATB
• It's not over -Chris Daughtry
• Beautiful Liar - Beyonce Knowles
• Breathe Me -Sia
• Umbrella - Rihanna
• I wanna Love you -Akon
• Don't think of me -Dido
• Something Just are the way they are - ATB

There is nothing half so pleasant as coming home again....

Finally back home after five months ! Such a relief to be back to the old and the familiar, it's strange how some things give comfort just by being the same. Come to think of it , I think that's what most of us look for in life, stability or consistency in relationships or in anything for the matter. That's what keeps one sane when other things go crazily out of orbit !

I've spent the past five months in Singapore and it's been an enlightening and enjoyable experience. During the time away from home, I've grown a lot and learnt a hellavu lot about myself and about people in general. Strange how staying with people makes you bond so much faster with them. I never thought i'd miss my friends in my holiday break, I guess it's weird when I think about how I didn't even know these people five months back and now I miss them when I don't see them everyday ! I guess home is not a place where you live, but a place where they understand you...

Letting Go n Moving On

"Sometimes it makes me sad, though, Andy being gone. I have to remind myself that some birds aren't meant to be caged, that's all. Their feathers are just too bright... and when they fly away, the part of you that knows it was a sin to lock them up does rejoice... but still, the place you live is that much more drab and empty that they're gone. I guess I just miss my friend. "

-Excerpt from Shawshank Redemption

Resilience

We must never forget that we may also find meaning in life even when confronted with a hopeless situation, when facing a fate that cannot be changed.
-Viktor E. Frankl

Growing up

Learning to own your burdens is half the battle in life , and once you do that, you learn to take responsibility for your actions.

Loss of a loved one

The moment you lose someone you love, is the moment you lose a part of yourself...

Compassion

You cannot care about everything and stay sane. You cannot care about nothing and stay human.
- Katherine Whitehorn

Right n Wrong

No one is always completely right, there is something wrong with all of us...

Challenge

The greatest challenge is to be yourself in a world where everyone wants you to be somebody else.
-E.E Cummings

Distance

Even though we drifted apart in distance, I still think of you as a part of my life. And although we both have many new friends I still cherish our friendship and always will.

And then , it rained !!!

Beautiful isn't it ? I love the rain ! :-D

Home

Home is where the heart is...

Bitterness

Only someone who has been really close to you, can hurt you with a precision that few others can achieve...and in the end all that's left is bitterness...

Passion

If a man hasn't discovered something that he will die for , he isn't fit to live.

-Martin Luther King

The Future

I guess you never know where a road will end... Sometimes you just know that it will...

Top Ten Favorite Songs for the Month of May

I have this strange habit of finding songs that I like, old or new and then listening to them again and again, till I get sick of em. So I’ve decided to regularly post a list of my favorite songs. You may wonder why I feel the need to subject you to my music preferences, and well I have only one answer for you my friend, It’s my blog ! If you have any objections you are free to leave a comment or better still get your own blog! :-)

So here goes this months list :-

1. Begin –Ben Lee
2. Chasing Cars –Snow Patrol
3. Here without you –Three Doors Down
4. Beautiful Wreck –Shawn Mullins
5. Some Hearts –Carrie Underwood
6. Everything Changes –Staind
7. The Real Thing –Bo Bice
8. I’ll Stand by you –The Pretenders
9. Faraway – Nickelback
10. The Fear you won’t fall – Joshua Radin

The Old n the Familiar

In this place I hear the quiet rasp of things as they used to be. I come at dawn, I come at nightfall, and all the hours in between. I come to hear the twilight robes and songs from yesterday. I come because old things live here, things I understand without knowing why...

-Paraphrased from "Slow Waltz in Cedar Bend" - By Robert James Waller

Daddy’s Girl -Always!

Three years have passed since I lost my father but for me time seems to stand still. My father still forms an important part of my life. There isn’t a day which goes by where I don’t think about him, miss him or talk about him. I often wonder what his views on certain current events would be, whether he would enjoy food at the new restaurant that opened down the road, or whether he would like the latest acquisition to my wardrobe.
I guess that’s what happens when someone has a larger than life presence. In a strange way it permeates even when the person no longer exists. I still hear his voice telling me not to do silly things, to have patience when I’m sick of waiting for things to happen, and telling me to be strong when I feel like I can’t deal with things. Is it really possible for someone to talk to you from beyond the grave or is it a game your mind plays with you to help you deal with the sudden shock of losing someone so near and dear to you?

I don’t know the answer to that question, but I’m glad that I can still hear his voice in my head. It makes me feel safe, happy and content knowing that, it’s a part of him I’ll always have.

Looking back, I know that in the past three years I’ve grown up more than I did in the 22 years before that. I guess losing someone close to you makes you grow up faster than you ever intended. And all the values that they tried to instill in you seem to suddenly become the values that you strive for even when their physical presence is not around to guide you. As a person, I’ve learnt to be more responsible, goal oriented and focused. I've learnt to prioritise and make time for work and fun. I’ve learnt to face my fears and deal with it head on. I’ve become stronger emotionally than I ever thought possible. Suddenly life seems too short to hold grudges or to fight over trifles. Family has gained more importance than it ever had before. Making time for hobbies and learning new skills has become a part of my routine. In short, living life to the fullest. But the greatest lesson that I have learnt from my dad is, that forging relationships with people is more important than just getting the job done.
And though there are lot of things in life I’m not sure of, one thing I know for sure is , I’ll always be daddy’s girl !

Loss

Loss? What does it mean? Loss of property or life?

Loss of property can be replaced given time, but loss of life – never. When someone loses someone near and dear, people often say, give it time… things will get better. I always wonder what their talking about?!! Better with time? For whom ? Maybe for the person saying it because, with time he/she will forget about it and move on with his/her life. What a foolish thing to say and how very naïve of them to assume that everything gets better with time, like time is a panacea for all ills.

I know that with time the pain intensifies, as time flies one realizes the gravity of death. A person who is dead will never ever return. You can never expect them to walk into a room while you’re sitting there, never have a conversation with them, never touch them and never hold them close. And the pain you feel at the unfairness of it all, doesn’t get better with time, it gets worse, like a festering wound, becoming larger and more painful. Losing someone close to you can change your life in ways you never even imagined. It can make you stronger or weaker, the choice is yours. Strong individuals find ways to circumvent the pain and look for ways to channelise it; the weak succumb to the pain and undergo depression, sometimes even trying to commit suicide.

What irritates me is individuals who feel the need to give advice on the loss of a loved one when they have absolutely no idea what their talking about. Sometimes it’s a good idea to shut-up if one doesn’t have anything intelligent to say, might save the rest of us the torture of listening to crap.