Why do people get married??! I’ve heard a number of reasons like financial security, my parents wanted me to, I was bored, I thought it was the right time , peer pressure, but not one of those reasons has made me feel like grabbing a person of the opposite sex and saying marry me now, I’ve found a reason.
I’ve always been dead against arranged marriages, maybe because I’ve always been the kind of person to do exactly the opposite of what anyone was telling me to do.
So why do people agree to arranged marriages? Maybe it’s because they haven’t found the right person and aren’t sure where to look so they agree to parents finding someone suitable for them. Now while this might not be a bad idea, very rarely do parents, relatives and those involved in introducing the girl and boy, give them any privacy or allow them sufficient interactions and time to decide. They want an answer after two or three meetings, which is ridiculous because no one ever really knows anyone in two or three meetings. And those meetings are going to decide the person their going to spend the rest of their lives with, seems bizarre, like playing Russian roulette with your life. But going by the number of arranged marriages in our country I guess there are a whole lot of gamblers out there.
According to me the ONLY reason to give up my freedom and independence is love.
So why do people who don’t even understand the meaning of love always insist on giving advice about marriage. I’m often confronted with over enthusiastic relations/friends who want me to have an arranged marriage and I now have a standard answer, I’m waiting for love, if it doesn’t happen I’ll die a spinster. Somehow that troubles them further, I guess people always feel if their in a mess it’s good to have company.
Now the probability of an arranged marriage or a love marriage finally working out has to do with the two people involved. Though if there is love, compromise comes naturally, also the time and energy required to make a marriage work is very similar to that required to make a relationship work, so both parties are already aware of the kind of commitment involved. And if I have to bet my life on it, I want the odds to be good.
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3 comments:
Well there is always the chance of failing in anything one does , but that doesn't necessarily mean that one should stop trying...So marriage is definitely worth a shot.. atleast once..
N if there is a stigma attached to divorce there is an even bigger stigma attached to living in with someone , especially in India...
Also i honestly believe if u truly love someone for all the right reasons then there won't be any illusions or surprises after marriage...if u love someone for superficial reasons then you're bound to run into rough weather..
"According to me the ONLY reason to give up my freedom and independence is love."
Why you have to give up your freedom and independence in marriage???????
Well when u get married u really can't go around doing anything u want...u have to consult the other person n check if its ok with them..basically u have to stop only thinking of yourself.. so there goes ur freedom n there goes ur independence.. atleast to some extent..N i meant it more in the sense of once ur married... ur stuck... u can't really play the field... that would just be wrong... So unless u really love the person why would u want to be stuck ??!
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