To love is to risk not being loved in return. To hope is to risk pain. To try is to risk failure , but risk must be taken because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing.
Saturday, December 16, 2006
Sunday, December 10, 2006
Generosity
What we do for ourselves dies with us. What we do for others and the world remains and is immortal.
-Albert Pine
-Albert Pine
Thursday, December 07, 2006
I’ve learned that :-
- Days are long, but life is short.
- I can’t change the past, but I can let it go.
- People treat me, the way I allow them to treat me.
- Whatever I enjoy doing, I do well.
- If you smile at people , they will almost always smile back.
- That a person’s greatest need is to feel appreciated.
- The only time I want to sleep late is when I can’t.
- The best way to appreciate something is to be without it for a while.
- To get the right answer, you have to ask the right questions.
- Being through tough times does not necessarily make a person tougher. It’s not what you've been through that matters, its how you came through it.
- The ability to laugh when life gets you down is the only thing that can help you get over all obstacles.
- Being good looking might give you an audience, but after fifteen minutes, you better know something.
- Having a supportive family and good friends can help you overcome anything.
- Being bigger doesn’t necessarily mean being stronger.
- Most women are emotionally stronger than men.
- One of the greatest joys in life is to be greeted by a pet .
- Good food and chocolate can cheer me up like nothing else.
- Being hard working might not give you immediate results but hard work pays off eventually.
- Deciding whom you’ll marry is the most important decision you’ll ever make.
- Most of the things I worry about never happen.
- No one has a clue about what the stock market is going to do.
- The greatest challenge in life is to decide what’s important and to disregard everything else.
- You shouldn’t fight a battle, if there’s nothing to win.
- You should never be too busy to say “Please” and “Thank you”.
- You can’t judge people by the way they look.
- You can’t throw mud without getting some on yourself.
- A person is only as good as his or her word.
- It doesn’t cost anything to be nice.
- Nothing of value comes without effort.
- Trust is the single most important factor in all relationships.
- Silent company is often more healing than words of advice.
- If you care about someone, it shows.
- More comfort doesn’t necessarily mean more happiness.
- Life sometimes gives you a second chance.
- The worst pain is watching someone you love in pain.
- When someone tells you that it’s the principle of the thing and not the money, it’s usually the money.
- Sometimes I just need to be hugged.
- You never really know your friends until you live with them.
- I still have a lot to learn
Wednesday, December 06, 2006
Monday, December 04, 2006
Impossible
IMPOSSIBLE IS JUST A BIG WORD THROWN AROUND BY SMALL MEN WHO FIND IT EASIER TO LIVE IN THE WORLD THEY'VE BEEN GIVEN THAN TO EXPLORE THE POWER THEY HAVE TO CHANGE IT.
IMPOSSIBLE IS NOT A FACT. IT'S AN OPINION.
IMPOSSIBLE IS NOT A DECLARATION. IT'S A DARE.
IMPOSSIBLE IS POTENTIAL.
IMPOSSIBLE IS TEMPORARY.
IMPOSSIBLE IS NOTHING.
- Adidas
IMPOSSIBLE IS NOT A FACT. IT'S AN OPINION.
IMPOSSIBLE IS NOT A DECLARATION. IT'S A DARE.
IMPOSSIBLE IS POTENTIAL.
IMPOSSIBLE IS TEMPORARY.
IMPOSSIBLE IS NOTHING.
- Adidas
Friday, December 01, 2006
Thursday, November 30, 2006
Inspiring
Watched Oprah this afternoon and was really inspired by some truly amazing people and their amazing lives. I don’t think I’ve been so inspired in a while.
Melissa Etheridge was on the show, she is a singer and a cancer survivor. Melissa talked about her fight against cancer, the chemotherapy, her fears and the anguish at being diagnosed with cancer. Her pain and her anguish was so real, that it almost reduced me to tears, but when she talked about how she fought back and got through it all you could almost see her spirit waging a war and winning. She sang at the Oscars this year, and since she was undergoing chemotherapy at the time and losing her hair, she just shaved her head instead. So this completely bald but beautiful woman, took what life gave her and made the most out of it. We could all learn a lot from that. Truly truly amazing.
My favorite song, from Melissa’s latest album is “I run for life”. Really neat lyrics… here’s a stanza from the same…
“It's a blur since they told me about it
How the darkness had taken its toll
And they cut into my skin and they cut into my body
But they will never get a piece of my soul
And now I'm still learning the lesson
To waken when I hear the call
And if you ask me why I am still running
I'll tell you I run for us all
I run for hope
I run to feel
I run for the truth
For all that is real
I run for your mother your sister your wife
I run for you and me my friend I run for life”
Melissa Etheridge was on the show, she is a singer and a cancer survivor. Melissa talked about her fight against cancer, the chemotherapy, her fears and the anguish at being diagnosed with cancer. Her pain and her anguish was so real, that it almost reduced me to tears, but when she talked about how she fought back and got through it all you could almost see her spirit waging a war and winning. She sang at the Oscars this year, and since she was undergoing chemotherapy at the time and losing her hair, she just shaved her head instead. So this completely bald but beautiful woman, took what life gave her and made the most out of it. We could all learn a lot from that. Truly truly amazing.
My favorite song, from Melissa’s latest album is “I run for life”. Really neat lyrics… here’s a stanza from the same…
“It's a blur since they told me about it
How the darkness had taken its toll
And they cut into my skin and they cut into my body
But they will never get a piece of my soul
And now I'm still learning the lesson
To waken when I hear the call
And if you ask me why I am still running
I'll tell you I run for us all
I run for hope
I run to feel
I run for the truth
For all that is real
I run for your mother your sister your wife
I run for you and me my friend I run for life”
Saturday, November 25, 2006
Contentment
Until you make peace with who you are, you'll never be content with what you have.
-Doris Mortman
-Doris Mortman
Wednesday, November 22, 2006
The Train Ride
Asha was tired, it had been a long tiring weekend. She was really looking forward to getting back home, back to her own room, her own bed. She wished the train was on time. She felt it was time she told Ajit that he should look for a job in Bangalore. These weekend commutes were really getting to her. But she kept telling herself that this was important for Ajit’s career and it wasn’t that she didn’t enjoy spending time with her husband, she just wanted to relax on the weekends and get some time for herself .
Asha frowned and looked down the platform there was no sign of the train, the platform was crowded, with people sitting on the floors, on the broken cement benches, on their luggage and on any flat surface. It was noisy too, with vendors trying to sell their wares, street urchins begging and the occasional announcement by the Indian Railways that no one could understand. She heard foot steps, she turned slightly it was Ajit. In his hands he held two plastic glasses of hot coffee, she smiled gratefully and took one glass from him.
“Is the train on time?”, she asked.
Ajit smiled, “Yes, don’t worry it’s on time, should be here in five minutes. You should reach Bangalore by 10.00 pm.”
Asha heaved a sigh of relief, she just didn’t have the energy to wait indefinitely for a train today. She looked around the platform again, her eyes lingering on the magazines in the bookstall. She wondered whether she should pick up something to read, then decided against it, she was really tired and could do with a nap.
“Here comes the train. It seems to be exactly on time, I guess even the Indian Railways is frightened of being late when it comes to my wife.” Ajit chuckled.
They looked at each other and smiled, each remembering how they had, had long fights during their courtship period as Ajit had always been late for their weekend rendezvous. Now it seemed like so long back, almost another life time.
Ajit grabbed the small weekend bag, and helped Asha board the train. She had a seat in the AC Chair car section of the train.
“Call me as soon as you reach home, ok?”, Ajit insisted on his wife reporting her activities at constant intervals.
Asha nodded, it had become a routine.
As the train pulled out of the station, she waved at her husband and thought of how the whole procedure would repeat again after a weeks gap. She sighed and then made a conscious decision not to think about it any further. She could already feel a head ache coming on. She looked in her bag for an asprin, luckily she had one left, she picked up the bottle of Bisleri water that Ajit had bought for her at the station and took a sip, swallowing the medicine with it. Then she stretched her feet and went off to sleep.
When Asha woke up she was dis-oriented, it was dark outside and she had forgotten she was on the train. She looked around and found the Ticket collector.
“Excuse me, can you please tell me which the next station is?”
“Next station, Cantonment”, said the ticket collector as he walked past in a hurry.
Asha was relieved, she got up and stretched her feet, picked up her bag and walked to the door. She loved standing near the door and always made it a point to get up a little before the train reached her station.
As the train pulled into the station, Asha smiled to herself, coming back home always made her happy. She got off the train and started walking, the platform was deserted, cold and wet. November rains in Bangalore always made the weather chilly, she shivered, and pulled on her jacket.
Then she heard footsteps and an out of breath voice asking anxiously, “Excuse me, Is this the last station?”.
Asha turned, it was a young woman around twenty five years of age, “No, the last station is city station, get back on the train”, she said.
The woman didn’t look convinced, “Are you sure this isn’t the last station?”
Asha smiled, “Yes, I’m sure, the next station is city station and that is the last station”.
As the woman looked back at the train hesitatingly, the train started pulling out of the station.
The woman now tried to make an attempt to get back on the train but it had gathered speed. Asha looked at her and made a mental note of how strange it was that most people only realized that they wanted something when it was too late.
The woman looked flustered now and suddenly burst into tears. Asha walked up to her, she felt sorry for her. She knew how it felt to be alone and lost in a strange city.
“Hey, don’t cry, you just need to take an auto to the city station. Is someone meeting you there? It’s pretty late.” Asha said, looking at her watch.
The young woman lifted her tear stained face, “My husband said he would be waiting for me at the last station. This is my first trip to Bangalore.”
“Well, don’t worry then, its not far. Come on, I’ll drop you, my car and driver will be in the parking lot”. Asha had stopped relying on the auto drivers a long time ago, she hated being at their mercy.
The young woman nodded, but her face was expressionless. She still seemed very troubled by her predicament. Asha decided to give her time to recover her composure.
When they reached the city station, it was deserted except for some porters who were taking a nap while waiting for the late night trains to come in. Asha and the young woman walked up and down the platform but there was no sign of the young woman’s husband. It was already eleven ‘o clock. Asha decided to check with the station master. The station master was a helpful friendly old man. He said no one had been here looking for a young woman but perhaps her husband had been delayed.
The young woman suddenly came out of her reverie,
“I’ll be fine now, Thank you for dropping me. Please don’t wait. You’ve been very kind to me, I’ll never forget this.”
Asha smiled, “No problem. Take care then, I hope your husband comes soon.”
Asha thanked the station master and left. She slowly walked back to her car, it had been a very very long day. She was looking forward to getting home and having a hot bath and some food.
After a week, Asha was back at the station returning from Chennai and as she jumped off the train and started walking towards the exit, she heard a familiar voice say,
”Excuse me, Is this the last station?”.
Asha frowned and looked down the platform there was no sign of the train, the platform was crowded, with people sitting on the floors, on the broken cement benches, on their luggage and on any flat surface. It was noisy too, with vendors trying to sell their wares, street urchins begging and the occasional announcement by the Indian Railways that no one could understand. She heard foot steps, she turned slightly it was Ajit. In his hands he held two plastic glasses of hot coffee, she smiled gratefully and took one glass from him.
“Is the train on time?”, she asked.
Ajit smiled, “Yes, don’t worry it’s on time, should be here in five minutes. You should reach Bangalore by 10.00 pm.”
Asha heaved a sigh of relief, she just didn’t have the energy to wait indefinitely for a train today. She looked around the platform again, her eyes lingering on the magazines in the bookstall. She wondered whether she should pick up something to read, then decided against it, she was really tired and could do with a nap.
“Here comes the train. It seems to be exactly on time, I guess even the Indian Railways is frightened of being late when it comes to my wife.” Ajit chuckled.
They looked at each other and smiled, each remembering how they had, had long fights during their courtship period as Ajit had always been late for their weekend rendezvous. Now it seemed like so long back, almost another life time.
Ajit grabbed the small weekend bag, and helped Asha board the train. She had a seat in the AC Chair car section of the train.
“Call me as soon as you reach home, ok?”, Ajit insisted on his wife reporting her activities at constant intervals.
Asha nodded, it had become a routine.
As the train pulled out of the station, she waved at her husband and thought of how the whole procedure would repeat again after a weeks gap. She sighed and then made a conscious decision not to think about it any further. She could already feel a head ache coming on. She looked in her bag for an asprin, luckily she had one left, she picked up the bottle of Bisleri water that Ajit had bought for her at the station and took a sip, swallowing the medicine with it. Then she stretched her feet and went off to sleep.
When Asha woke up she was dis-oriented, it was dark outside and she had forgotten she was on the train. She looked around and found the Ticket collector.
“Excuse me, can you please tell me which the next station is?”
“Next station, Cantonment”, said the ticket collector as he walked past in a hurry.
Asha was relieved, she got up and stretched her feet, picked up her bag and walked to the door. She loved standing near the door and always made it a point to get up a little before the train reached her station.
As the train pulled into the station, Asha smiled to herself, coming back home always made her happy. She got off the train and started walking, the platform was deserted, cold and wet. November rains in Bangalore always made the weather chilly, she shivered, and pulled on her jacket.
Then she heard footsteps and an out of breath voice asking anxiously, “Excuse me, Is this the last station?”.
Asha turned, it was a young woman around twenty five years of age, “No, the last station is city station, get back on the train”, she said.
The woman didn’t look convinced, “Are you sure this isn’t the last station?”
Asha smiled, “Yes, I’m sure, the next station is city station and that is the last station”.
As the woman looked back at the train hesitatingly, the train started pulling out of the station.
The woman now tried to make an attempt to get back on the train but it had gathered speed. Asha looked at her and made a mental note of how strange it was that most people only realized that they wanted something when it was too late.
The woman looked flustered now and suddenly burst into tears. Asha walked up to her, she felt sorry for her. She knew how it felt to be alone and lost in a strange city.
“Hey, don’t cry, you just need to take an auto to the city station. Is someone meeting you there? It’s pretty late.” Asha said, looking at her watch.
The young woman lifted her tear stained face, “My husband said he would be waiting for me at the last station. This is my first trip to Bangalore.”
“Well, don’t worry then, its not far. Come on, I’ll drop you, my car and driver will be in the parking lot”. Asha had stopped relying on the auto drivers a long time ago, she hated being at their mercy.
The young woman nodded, but her face was expressionless. She still seemed very troubled by her predicament. Asha decided to give her time to recover her composure.
When they reached the city station, it was deserted except for some porters who were taking a nap while waiting for the late night trains to come in. Asha and the young woman walked up and down the platform but there was no sign of the young woman’s husband. It was already eleven ‘o clock. Asha decided to check with the station master. The station master was a helpful friendly old man. He said no one had been here looking for a young woman but perhaps her husband had been delayed.
The young woman suddenly came out of her reverie,
“I’ll be fine now, Thank you for dropping me. Please don’t wait. You’ve been very kind to me, I’ll never forget this.”
Asha smiled, “No problem. Take care then, I hope your husband comes soon.”
Asha thanked the station master and left. She slowly walked back to her car, it had been a very very long day. She was looking forward to getting home and having a hot bath and some food.
After a week, Asha was back at the station returning from Chennai and as she jumped off the train and started walking towards the exit, she heard a familiar voice say,
”Excuse me, Is this the last station?”.
Sunday, November 19, 2006
Regrets
The bitterest tears shed over graves are for words left unsaid and deeds left undone.
-Harriet Beecher Stowe
-Harriet Beecher Stowe
Friday, November 17, 2006
Sunday, November 12, 2006
Time
Time takes it all, whether you want it to or not. Time takes it all, time bears it away, and in the end there is only darkness. Sometimes we find others in that darkness and sometimes we lose them there again.
-Stephen King
-Stephen King
Sunday, November 05, 2006
Some funny one liners...
1. I Refuse To Have A Battle Of Wits With An Unarmed Person.
2. I Haven't Lost My Mind. It's Backed Up On Disk Somewhere.
3. Chaos. Panic. Disorder. My work is done here.
4. I don't suffer from stress. I’m a carrier.
5. Everyone needs to believe in something. I believe in chocolate.
6. I don't suffer from insanity; I enjoy every minute of it.
7. Errors have been made. Others will be blamed.
8. Sarcasm is just one more service I offer.
9. I'm not rude. You're just insignificant.
10. Consciousness: That annoying time between naps.
11. I may be fat, but you are ugly and I can lose weight.
12. I'm really easy to get along with once people learn to worship me.
13. I have plenty of talent and vision. I just don't care.
14. Born free. Taxed to death.
15. The 11th commandment: Thou Shall NOT Whine!
16. Coffee. Chocolate. Men. Some things are just better rich.
17. If they don’t have chocolate in heaven, I’m not going.
18. It’s not just the ups and downs that make life difficult. It’s the jerks.
19. There is always one more imbecile than you counted on.
20. I'll try being nicer if you will try being smarter.
21. I don’t know what I want, but I do know I don’t have it yet.
22. All Men Are Animals. Some Just Make Better Pets.
2. I Haven't Lost My Mind. It's Backed Up On Disk Somewhere.
3. Chaos. Panic. Disorder. My work is done here.
4. I don't suffer from stress. I’m a carrier.
5. Everyone needs to believe in something. I believe in chocolate.
6. I don't suffer from insanity; I enjoy every minute of it.
7. Errors have been made. Others will be blamed.
8. Sarcasm is just one more service I offer.
9. I'm not rude. You're just insignificant.
10. Consciousness: That annoying time between naps.
11. I may be fat, but you are ugly and I can lose weight.
12. I'm really easy to get along with once people learn to worship me.
13. I have plenty of talent and vision. I just don't care.
14. Born free. Taxed to death.
15. The 11th commandment: Thou Shall NOT Whine!
16. Coffee. Chocolate. Men. Some things are just better rich.
17. If they don’t have chocolate in heaven, I’m not going.
18. It’s not just the ups and downs that make life difficult. It’s the jerks.
19. There is always one more imbecile than you counted on.
20. I'll try being nicer if you will try being smarter.
21. I don’t know what I want, but I do know I don’t have it yet.
22. All Men Are Animals. Some Just Make Better Pets.
Saturday, November 04, 2006
Sadness
We gather strength from sadness and from pain,
Each time we die we learn to live a little...
Read some thing which I thought really epitomized sadness and how suddenly it creeps up on us when we least expect it...
"I thought that I could not be hurt;
I thought that I must surely be impervoius to mental pain or agony,
My world was warm with April sun,
My thoughts were spangled green and gold;
My soul filled up with joy,
yet felt the sharp, sweet pain that only joy can hold...
Then suddenly my world turned gray,
And darkness wiped aside my joy.
A dull and aching void was left,
Where careless hands had reached out to destroy my silver web of happiness..."
-Slyvia Plath
Each time we die we learn to live a little...
Read some thing which I thought really epitomized sadness and how suddenly it creeps up on us when we least expect it...
"I thought that I could not be hurt;
I thought that I must surely be impervoius to mental pain or agony,
My world was warm with April sun,
My thoughts were spangled green and gold;
My soul filled up with joy,
yet felt the sharp, sweet pain that only joy can hold...
Then suddenly my world turned gray,
And darkness wiped aside my joy.
A dull and aching void was left,
Where careless hands had reached out to destroy my silver web of happiness..."
-Slyvia Plath
Friday, November 03, 2006
Books...
Outside of a dog, a man's best friend is a book. Inside of a dog, it's too dark to read.
-Groucho Marx
-Groucho Marx
Friday, October 27, 2006
And what if I were to die tonight or tomorrow? What did I spend my last hours doing?
Well, I went to the gym early in the morning; I had a nice chat with my sister on the way there about her upcoming wedding. Returned from the gym and spent the rest of the morning studying. Had a nice leisurely lunch with mom and caught up on all the latest news on our large extended family. Then massaged moms head, she was having a bad headache. Helped my maid clean a cupboard, and learnt about how she celebrated Diwali. Then read my book and had a good laugh. Currently reading, “Mediocre but arrogant” by Abhijit Bhadhuri. Quite an interesting read.
In the evening, my best friend dropped in for a good heart to heart chat. Then my sister and her fiancé came back from work and we all had dinner together.
After my friends left, I spoke to my mum and sister for a while, checked email, showered and got into bed to read for a while before finally switching off the lights and calling it a night.
All small insignificant things. Today I didn’t rescue orphans or give all my money to victims of natural disasters, or nurse a cancer patient or change the world.
Do I regret that? No, No I don’t think I do. I regret not being there enough for my mum;I regret leaning on my best friend instead of supporting her; I regret not spending more time with my grand parents; I regret not being more demonstrative towards those I love…
What good is it trying to accomplish BIG things when you can’t be a good person? What good is it trying to change the world when you cannot be kind and charitable to those around you? We don’t need hundreds of people who are willing to do big things, while neglecting those around them. We just need little people who are willing to go the extra mile for those around them and with that the world will be a much nicer and happier place to live in.
In the evening, my best friend dropped in for a good heart to heart chat. Then my sister and her fiancé came back from work and we all had dinner together.
After my friends left, I spoke to my mum and sister for a while, checked email, showered and got into bed to read for a while before finally switching off the lights and calling it a night.
All small insignificant things. Today I didn’t rescue orphans or give all my money to victims of natural disasters, or nurse a cancer patient or change the world.
Do I regret that? No, No I don’t think I do. I regret not being there enough for my mum;I regret leaning on my best friend instead of supporting her; I regret not spending more time with my grand parents; I regret not being more demonstrative towards those I love…
What good is it trying to accomplish BIG things when you can’t be a good person? What good is it trying to change the world when you cannot be kind and charitable to those around you? We don’t need hundreds of people who are willing to do big things, while neglecting those around them. We just need little people who are willing to go the extra mile for those around them and with that the world will be a much nicer and happier place to live in.
Wednesday, October 25, 2006
When the going gets tough, the tough eats chocolate mousse…
So after I gave up studying for the day I decided to make some chocolate mousse...I have a theory, eating lots n lots of chocolate helps increase concentration...it may not be true, but do I dare take the chance? C’mon guys, I really can’t afford it...exams coming up and I need all the help I can get, though at the rate I’m going, divine intervention might be the only thing that can save me...
Anyway here’s a picture of my creation..
Found some cool quotes on Chocolate...
Forget love -- I'd rather fall in chocolate!!!
I could give up chocolate, but I'm not a quitter.
Nine out of ten people like chocolate.The tenth person always lies.
Monday, October 23, 2006
Saturday, October 21, 2006
Marriage
Marriage is a promise. It is a belief in each other and in the possibility of love. A decision to ignore or simply rise above the pain and hurt of the past. Marriage binds two souls and yet severs prior ties. It is the celebration of a chance taken and the challenges that lie ahead. For two will always be stronger than one. Like a team braced against the tempest of the world. And love will always be the guiding force in our lives. The ceremony is a mere formality, only an announcement to the world of feelings long held. Remember tonight, for it is the beginning of always...
-Lucas,OTH (Slightly modified)
-Lucas,OTH (Slightly modified)
Friday, October 20, 2006
Reason and Passion -Khalil Gibran
Your reason and your passion are the rudder and the sails of your seafaring soul...
If either your sails or your rudder be broken, you can but toss and drift, or else be held at a standstill in mid-seas...
For reason, ruling alone, is a force confining ; and passion, unattended, is a flame that burns to its own destruction...
Therefore let your soul exalt your reason to the height of passion; that it may sing;
And let it direct your passion with reason, that your passion may live through its own daily resurrection, and like the phoenix rise above its own ashes.
If either your sails or your rudder be broken, you can but toss and drift, or else be held at a standstill in mid-seas...
For reason, ruling alone, is a force confining ; and passion, unattended, is a flame that burns to its own destruction...
Therefore let your soul exalt your reason to the height of passion; that it may sing;
And let it direct your passion with reason, that your passion may live through its own daily resurrection, and like the phoenix rise above its own ashes.
Monday, October 16, 2006
One of the best quotes i've ever read...
If you're not confused, you're not paying attention. -Tom Peters.
Sunday, October 15, 2006
Wednesday, October 11, 2006
Everything's got a moral, if only you can find it. –Lewis Carroll
I wanted a perfect life. Now I've learned, the hard way, that it doesn’t exist. Nothing ever goes according to plan I guess some stories don't have a clear beginning, middle, or an end.
Life is about not knowing,having to change, rising to the occasion, grasping the moment and making the best of it, without knowing what's going to happen next. In other words, total ambiguity.
But still there are some things that we just know, like how do you define space? How do you define color? How do you define love? You can’t...you just know it...
Our world in no more permanent than a wave rising on the ocean, whatever our struggles and triumphs, they all pass with time and the only thing that remains are the memories and the people who have contributed to those experiences. When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives means the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving any advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain by just being there. The friend who can be silent in our moment of despair, who can stay with us in an hour of grief, who can hold us in a big comforting hug and let us cry till we are feeling better, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who really cares and understands.
Just being there for someone you care about, seems simple, somehow it isn’t that simple. I’ve often found that when people are confronted with someone in despair or anguish they either resort to trying to cheer the person up with some stupid jokes or trying to change the topic. And some really insensitive people just leave. Why do people have a problem with facing reality?
Yes, sometimes there are no solutions, quick fixes or cures, but does changing the topic change that? Does making some inane joke make it better? Does laughing nervously help anyone at all? Why is it so hard for us to accept that we might not have solutions to everything? Why can’t we accept that life isn’t all that is cracked up to be? Why can’t we be more accepting and learn to listen and comfort instead of trying to make an already bad situation worse? Why do people struggle with not knowing what to say? Is it really that hard???!!
Some things I will never understand…
Life is about not knowing,having to change, rising to the occasion, grasping the moment and making the best of it, without knowing what's going to happen next. In other words, total ambiguity.
But still there are some things that we just know, like how do you define space? How do you define color? How do you define love? You can’t...you just know it...
Our world in no more permanent than a wave rising on the ocean, whatever our struggles and triumphs, they all pass with time and the only thing that remains are the memories and the people who have contributed to those experiences. When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives means the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving any advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain by just being there. The friend who can be silent in our moment of despair, who can stay with us in an hour of grief, who can hold us in a big comforting hug and let us cry till we are feeling better, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who really cares and understands.
Just being there for someone you care about, seems simple, somehow it isn’t that simple. I’ve often found that when people are confronted with someone in despair or anguish they either resort to trying to cheer the person up with some stupid jokes or trying to change the topic. And some really insensitive people just leave. Why do people have a problem with facing reality?
Yes, sometimes there are no solutions, quick fixes or cures, but does changing the topic change that? Does making some inane joke make it better? Does laughing nervously help anyone at all? Why is it so hard for us to accept that we might not have solutions to everything? Why can’t we accept that life isn’t all that is cracked up to be? Why can’t we be more accepting and learn to listen and comfort instead of trying to make an already bad situation worse? Why do people struggle with not knowing what to say? Is it really that hard???!!
Some things I will never understand…
Tuesday, October 10, 2006
The 10 Most Important Rules
1. The female always makes the rules.
2.The rules are subject to change at any time without prior notification.
3. No male can possibly know all the rules. Nearly all women are born with this knowledge.
4. If the female suspects the male knows all the rules, she may immediately change some or all the rules.
5. The female is never wrong.
6. If the female is wrong , it is because of a misunderstanding which was a direct result of something the male did or said wrong.
7. If rule #6 applies, the male must apologize immediately for causing the misunderstanding.
8. The female may change her mind at any given point in time.
9. The male must never change his mind without the expressed written consent of the female.
10. The female has every right to be angry or upset at any time.
PS - Now if i can just get someone who will follow the rules how nice life would be... :-)
2.The rules are subject to change at any time without prior notification.
3. No male can possibly know all the rules. Nearly all women are born with this knowledge.
4. If the female suspects the male knows all the rules, she may immediately change some or all the rules.
5. The female is never wrong.
6. If the female is wrong , it is because of a misunderstanding which was a direct result of something the male did or said wrong.
7. If rule #6 applies, the male must apologize immediately for causing the misunderstanding.
8. The female may change her mind at any given point in time.
9. The male must never change his mind without the expressed written consent of the female.
10. The female has every right to be angry or upset at any time.
PS - Now if i can just get someone who will follow the rules how nice life would be... :-)
Tuesday, October 03, 2006
Thursday, September 28, 2006
I am supposed to complete these sentences...
I am thinking – that either I’m crazy or the others are… I wish I knew...
I said –to myself, it’s probably the others, they all look and act insane...
I hear – strange voices in my head telling me that it’s not them, it’s me who needs to get my head examined...
I wish – I knew what I’m doing and where I’m heading...
I am – surprisingly simple or intensely complicated…
I want – a huge farm, at least ten dogs, a big garden with lots of flowers and a man who spoils me rotten.
I miss – my dad.
I sing – totally out of tune.
I dance – like there is no tomorrow.
I wonder – what life has in store for me...
I am not – naive...if you think that , you haven’t understood me yet...
I write – to clear my head and help me let go of pent up emotions.
I hate – people who don’t respect animals, those who don’t have an opinion about anything and those who are just plain spineless.
I confuse – myself into believing that all people are inherently good...
I’ve learnt – some people are pure evil...
I am passionate - about everything I do...
I believe - it's not the cards you're dealt , it's how you play the game...
I should – learn to let go more easily and stop taking on others problems as if they were my own.
I finish – everything I start.
I regret – agreeing to complete these sentences.
I said –to myself, it’s probably the others, they all look and act insane...
I hear – strange voices in my head telling me that it’s not them, it’s me who needs to get my head examined...
I wish – I knew what I’m doing and where I’m heading...
I am – surprisingly simple or intensely complicated…
I want – a huge farm, at least ten dogs, a big garden with lots of flowers and a man who spoils me rotten.
I miss – my dad.
I sing – totally out of tune.
I dance – like there is no tomorrow.
I wonder – what life has in store for me...
I am not – naive...if you think that , you haven’t understood me yet...
I write – to clear my head and help me let go of pent up emotions.
I hate – people who don’t respect animals, those who don’t have an opinion about anything and those who are just plain spineless.
I confuse – myself into believing that all people are inherently good...
I’ve learnt – some people are pure evil...
I am passionate - about everything I do...
I believe - it's not the cards you're dealt , it's how you play the game...
I should – learn to let go more easily and stop taking on others problems as if they were my own.
I finish – everything I start.
I regret – agreeing to complete these sentences.
Why does love make us say and do stupid things??!
There's one sad truth in life I've found
While journeying east and west -
The only folks we really wound
Are those we love the best.
We flatter those we scarcely know,
We please the fleeting guest,
And deal full many a thoughtless blow
To those who love us best.
~Ella Wheeler Wilcox
While journeying east and west -
The only folks we really wound
Are those we love the best.
We flatter those we scarcely know,
We please the fleeting guest,
And deal full many a thoughtless blow
To those who love us best.
~Ella Wheeler Wilcox
Wednesday, September 27, 2006
Sunday, September 24, 2006
List of things to do which I found in a fellow blogger's site... decided to see how much I've done.. Statements in bold are those I've actually done..
01.Bought everyone in the bar a drink
02. Swam with wild dolphins (R u kiddin??! Dolphins r huge..)
03. Climbed a mountain (well atleast a hill)
04. Taken a Ferrari for a test drive (I actually know someone who has one, so just got to get to the US n then convince him to let me drive it...)
05. Been inside the Great Pyramid (must do..)
06. Held a tarantula (Nope , n i hope i never have to...too creepy for words..)
07. Taken a candlelit bath with someone (Hmmmn...interesting...)
08. Said 'I love you' and meant it
09. Hugged a tree
10. Bungee jumped (No waaaay... i suffer from vertigo...)
11. Visited Paris (Ah.. must do soon..)
12. Watched a lightning storm at sea (Nope , but watched a storm at sea from the shore..)
13. Stayed up all night long and saw the sun rise (Very very beautiful..)14. Seen the Northern Lights
15. Gone to a huge sports game (Had the opporunity to go for a few cricket matches in Sharjah... somehow never had the inclination... though the free food was tempting..)
16. Walked the stairs to the top of the leaning Tower of Pisa (Not looking forward to climbin stairs anywhere... last week my trainer went mad n made me climb stairs at the gym, n i couldn't walk for a day...n that was hardly any stairs..)
17. Grown and eaten your own vegetables (I'm a strict non vegetarian.. i love vegetables... don't eat em.. )
18. Touched an iceberg (Not a bad idea unless i'm on a ship headin towards it..ala titanic style..)
19. Slept under the stars (Hmmn... that was fun..)
20. Changed a baby's diaper (Yes , n it was quite disgusting to say the least...)
21. Taken a trip in a hot air balloon (Heights again...)
22. Watched a meteor shower
23. Gotten drunk on champagne
24. Given more than you can afford to charity (Give to charity.. though probably not more than i can afford..)
25. Looked up at the night sky through a telescope (I want a telescope... such a cool thing to have...)
26. Had an uncontrollable giggling fit at the worst possible moment
27. Had a food fight
28. Bet on a winning horse (Not into gambling..)
29. Asked out a stranger (Nope... too many weirdos out there...though come to think of it... they usually find me...)
30. Had a snowball fight (Definitely must do..)
31. Screamed as loudly as you possibly can
32. Held a lamb
33. Seen a total eclipse
34. Ridden a roller coaster
35. Hit a home run
36. Danced like a fool and not cared who was looking
37. Adopted an accent for an entire day (Ah , how i miss school..)
38. Actually felt happy about your life, even for just a moment
39. Had two hard drives for your computer
40. Visited all 10 provinces (Which provinces are these i wonder...)
41. Taken care of someone who was drunk
42. Had amazing friends. (Yes , still have em... :-))
43. Danced with a stranger in a foreign country
44. Watched wild whales
45. Stolen a sign
46. Backpacked in Europe (Hmnn... sounds like fun..)
47. Taken a road-trip
48. Gone rock climbing
49. Midnight walk on the beach (Yes , very nice... n strongly recommended..)
50. Gone sky diving (Height again ... n again..)
51. Visited Ireland
52. Been heartbroken longer then you were actually in love (Been heart broken , though not for that long.. somehow no one is worth that much...)
53. In a restaurant, sat at a stranger's table and had a meal with them
54. Visited Japan
55. Milked a cow
56. Alphabetized your cds (Not that organised... i enjoy some chaos..)
57. Pretended to be a superhero
58. Sung karaoke
59. Lazed around in bed all day
60. Posed nude in front of strangers
61. Gone scuba diving
62. Kissed in the rain
63. Played in the mud
64.Played in the rain
65. Gone to a drive-in theater
66. Visited the Great Wall of China
67. Started a business
68. Fallen in love and not had your heart broken.
69. Toured ancient sites
70. Taken a martial arts class
71. Played D&D for more than 6 hours straight
72. Gotten married
73. Been in a movie
74. Crashed a party
75. Gotten divorced
76. Gone without food for 5 days (R u kidding ??!!)
77. Made cookies/cake from scratch
78. Won first prize in a costume contest
79. Ridden a gondola in Venice (Very romanitc... i 've heard... definitely must do some day..)
80. Gotten a tattoo (Soon... very soon...)
81. Rafted the Snake River
82. Been on television news programs as an "expert"
83. Got flowers for no reason
84. Performed on stage (I hope college fashion show counts... :-))
85. Been to Las Vegas
86. Recorded music
87. Eaten shark.
88. Had a one-night stand
89. Gone to Thailand
90. Bought a house
91. Been in a combat zone
93. Been on a cruise ship
94. Spoken more than one language fluently
95. Performed in Rocky Horror.
96. Raised children (Nope, not that old yet..)
97. Followed your favorite band/singer on tour
98. Created and named your own constellation of stars
99. Taken an exotic bicycle tour in a foreign country (Don't know how to cycle yet.. tried to learn but other than injuring those who were tryin to teach me , didn't achieve much..)
100. Picked up and moved to another city to just start over (Haven't done anything so bad yet...)
101. Walked the Golden Gate Bridge
102. Sang loudly in the car, and didn't stop when you knew someone was looking
103. Had plastic surgery (Nope , i'm too perfect... ;-)) )
104. Survived an illness that you shouldn't have survived (Yup, got some strange infection as soon as i was born , n frightened the daylights out of my parents by nearly dyin..)
105. Wrote article for a large publication
106. Lost over 100 pounds (Nope , was never that fat..)
107. Held someone while they were having a flashback
108. Piloted an airplane
109. Petted a stingray (Not a good idea... look what happened to poor Steve..)
110. Broken someone's heart
111. Helped an animal give birth
112. Won money on a T.V. game show
113. Broken a bone (Tore ligaments in both legs.. luckily didn't break a leg..)
114. Gone on an African photo safari (Definitely have to do this...)
115. Had a body part of yours below the neck pierced
116. Fired a rifle, shotgun, or pistol (Nope , n don't intend to.. unless its at the shooting range..)
117. Eaten mushrooms that were gathered in the wild
118. Ridden a horse
119. Had major surgery (Hope i don't ever have to..)
120. Had a snake as a pet (Nope , too scary...)
121. Hiked to the bottom of the Grand Canyon
122. Slept for more than 30 hours over the course of 48 hours
123. Visited foreign countries
124. Visited all 7 continents (Thats going to take a while..)
125. Taken a canoe trip that lasted more than 2 days
126. Eaten kangaroo meat
127. Eaten sushi (I love Sushi...)
128. Had your picture in the newspaper
129. Changed someone's mind about something you care deeply about
130. Gone back to school.
131. Parasailed (Great fun...will definitely do it again if i get the chance..)
132. Petted a cockroach (Not likely to happen in this life time...)
133. Eaten fried green tomatoes (Vegetables again..!!)
134. Read The Iliad - and the Odyssey
135. Selected one "important" author who you missed in school, and read
136. Killed and prepared an animal for eating (Nah... too traumatic..)
137. Skipped all your school reunions (Now , why would i do that ??!!)
138. Communicated with someone without sharing a common spoken language
139. Been elected to public office
140. Written your own computer language (Yes , if writing gibberish in your computer exam counts..)
141. Thought to yourself that you're living your dream
142. Had to put someone you love into hospice care
143. Built your own PC from parts (Hey , i'm human..)
144. Sold your own artwork to someone who didn't know you
145. Had a booth at a street fair
146. Dyed your hair (Temporarily.. yes...)
147. Been a DJ
148. Shaved your head (Thought of it... somehow got scared it might not come back..)
149. Caused a car accident
150. Saved someone's life (Yes..If saving someone from drowning in the school swimming pool counts....)
02. Swam with wild dolphins (R u kiddin??! Dolphins r huge..)
03. Climbed a mountain (well atleast a hill)
04. Taken a Ferrari for a test drive (I actually know someone who has one, so just got to get to the US n then convince him to let me drive it...)
05. Been inside the Great Pyramid (must do..)
06. Held a tarantula (Nope , n i hope i never have to...too creepy for words..)
07. Taken a candlelit bath with someone (Hmmmn...interesting...)
08. Said 'I love you' and meant it
09. Hugged a tree
10. Bungee jumped (No waaaay... i suffer from vertigo...)
11. Visited Paris (Ah.. must do soon..)
12. Watched a lightning storm at sea (Nope , but watched a storm at sea from the shore..)
13. Stayed up all night long and saw the sun rise (Very very beautiful..)14. Seen the Northern Lights
15. Gone to a huge sports game (Had the opporunity to go for a few cricket matches in Sharjah... somehow never had the inclination... though the free food was tempting..)
16. Walked the stairs to the top of the leaning Tower of Pisa (Not looking forward to climbin stairs anywhere... last week my trainer went mad n made me climb stairs at the gym, n i couldn't walk for a day...n that was hardly any stairs..)
17. Grown and eaten your own vegetables (I'm a strict non vegetarian.. i love vegetables... don't eat em.. )
18. Touched an iceberg (Not a bad idea unless i'm on a ship headin towards it..ala titanic style..)
19. Slept under the stars (Hmmn... that was fun..)
20. Changed a baby's diaper (Yes , n it was quite disgusting to say the least...)
21. Taken a trip in a hot air balloon (Heights again...)
22. Watched a meteor shower
23. Gotten drunk on champagne
24. Given more than you can afford to charity (Give to charity.. though probably not more than i can afford..)
25. Looked up at the night sky through a telescope (I want a telescope... such a cool thing to have...)
26. Had an uncontrollable giggling fit at the worst possible moment
27. Had a food fight
28. Bet on a winning horse (Not into gambling..)
29. Asked out a stranger (Nope... too many weirdos out there...though come to think of it... they usually find me...)
30. Had a snowball fight (Definitely must do..)
31. Screamed as loudly as you possibly can
32. Held a lamb
33. Seen a total eclipse
34. Ridden a roller coaster
35. Hit a home run
36. Danced like a fool and not cared who was looking
37. Adopted an accent for an entire day (Ah , how i miss school..)
38. Actually felt happy about your life, even for just a moment
39. Had two hard drives for your computer
40. Visited all 10 provinces (Which provinces are these i wonder...)
41. Taken care of someone who was drunk
42. Had amazing friends. (Yes , still have em... :-))
43. Danced with a stranger in a foreign country
44. Watched wild whales
45. Stolen a sign
46. Backpacked in Europe (Hmnn... sounds like fun..)
47. Taken a road-trip
48. Gone rock climbing
49. Midnight walk on the beach (Yes , very nice... n strongly recommended..)
50. Gone sky diving (Height again ... n again..)
51. Visited Ireland
52. Been heartbroken longer then you were actually in love (Been heart broken , though not for that long.. somehow no one is worth that much...)
53. In a restaurant, sat at a stranger's table and had a meal with them
54. Visited Japan
55. Milked a cow
56. Alphabetized your cds (Not that organised... i enjoy some chaos..)
57. Pretended to be a superhero
58. Sung karaoke
59. Lazed around in bed all day
60. Posed nude in front of strangers
61. Gone scuba diving
62. Kissed in the rain
63. Played in the mud
64.Played in the rain
65. Gone to a drive-in theater
66. Visited the Great Wall of China
67. Started a business
68. Fallen in love and not had your heart broken.
69. Toured ancient sites
70. Taken a martial arts class
71. Played D&D for more than 6 hours straight
72. Gotten married
73. Been in a movie
74. Crashed a party
75. Gotten divorced
76. Gone without food for 5 days (R u kidding ??!!)
77. Made cookies/cake from scratch
78. Won first prize in a costume contest
79. Ridden a gondola in Venice (Very romanitc... i 've heard... definitely must do some day..)
80. Gotten a tattoo (Soon... very soon...)
81. Rafted the Snake River
82. Been on television news programs as an "expert"
83. Got flowers for no reason
84. Performed on stage (I hope college fashion show counts... :-))
85. Been to Las Vegas
86. Recorded music
87. Eaten shark.
88. Had a one-night stand
89. Gone to Thailand
90. Bought a house
91. Been in a combat zone
93. Been on a cruise ship
94. Spoken more than one language fluently
95. Performed in Rocky Horror.
96. Raised children (Nope, not that old yet..)
97. Followed your favorite band/singer on tour
98. Created and named your own constellation of stars
99. Taken an exotic bicycle tour in a foreign country (Don't know how to cycle yet.. tried to learn but other than injuring those who were tryin to teach me , didn't achieve much..)
100. Picked up and moved to another city to just start over (Haven't done anything so bad yet...)
101. Walked the Golden Gate Bridge
102. Sang loudly in the car, and didn't stop when you knew someone was looking
103. Had plastic surgery (Nope , i'm too perfect... ;-)) )
104. Survived an illness that you shouldn't have survived (Yup, got some strange infection as soon as i was born , n frightened the daylights out of my parents by nearly dyin..)
105. Wrote article for a large publication
106. Lost over 100 pounds (Nope , was never that fat..)
107. Held someone while they were having a flashback
108. Piloted an airplane
109. Petted a stingray (Not a good idea... look what happened to poor Steve..)
110. Broken someone's heart
111. Helped an animal give birth
112. Won money on a T.V. game show
113. Broken a bone (Tore ligaments in both legs.. luckily didn't break a leg..)
114. Gone on an African photo safari (Definitely have to do this...)
115. Had a body part of yours below the neck pierced
116. Fired a rifle, shotgun, or pistol (Nope , n don't intend to.. unless its at the shooting range..)
117. Eaten mushrooms that were gathered in the wild
118. Ridden a horse
119. Had major surgery (Hope i don't ever have to..)
120. Had a snake as a pet (Nope , too scary...)
121. Hiked to the bottom of the Grand Canyon
122. Slept for more than 30 hours over the course of 48 hours
123. Visited foreign countries
124. Visited all 7 continents (Thats going to take a while..)
125. Taken a canoe trip that lasted more than 2 days
126. Eaten kangaroo meat
127. Eaten sushi (I love Sushi...)
128. Had your picture in the newspaper
129. Changed someone's mind about something you care deeply about
130. Gone back to school.
131. Parasailed (Great fun...will definitely do it again if i get the chance..)
132. Petted a cockroach (Not likely to happen in this life time...)
133. Eaten fried green tomatoes (Vegetables again..!!)
134. Read The Iliad - and the Odyssey
135. Selected one "important" author who you missed in school, and read
136. Killed and prepared an animal for eating (Nah... too traumatic..)
137. Skipped all your school reunions (Now , why would i do that ??!!)
138. Communicated with someone without sharing a common spoken language
139. Been elected to public office
140. Written your own computer language (Yes , if writing gibberish in your computer exam counts..)
141. Thought to yourself that you're living your dream
142. Had to put someone you love into hospice care
143. Built your own PC from parts (Hey , i'm human..)
144. Sold your own artwork to someone who didn't know you
145. Had a booth at a street fair
146. Dyed your hair (Temporarily.. yes...)
147. Been a DJ
148. Shaved your head (Thought of it... somehow got scared it might not come back..)
149. Caused a car accident
150. Saved someone's life (Yes..If saving someone from drowning in the school swimming pool counts....)
Wednesday, September 20, 2006
On Love
It is wrong to think that love comes from long companionship and persevering courtship. Love is the offspring of spiritual affinity and unless that affinity is created in a moment, it will not be created for years or even generations.
–Khalil Gibran
–Khalil Gibran
Tuesday, September 19, 2006
Thot for the Day
Everything that begins has to end,
What matters is not how it ended,
But whether it should have begun at all...
What matters is not how it ended,
But whether it should have begun at all...
Friday, September 15, 2006
Marry for Love or not at all ??!!
Why do people get married??! I’ve heard a number of reasons like financial security, my parents wanted me to, I was bored, I thought it was the right time , peer pressure, but not one of those reasons has made me feel like grabbing a person of the opposite sex and saying marry me now, I’ve found a reason.
I’ve always been dead against arranged marriages, maybe because I’ve always been the kind of person to do exactly the opposite of what anyone was telling me to do.
So why do people agree to arranged marriages? Maybe it’s because they haven’t found the right person and aren’t sure where to look so they agree to parents finding someone suitable for them. Now while this might not be a bad idea, very rarely do parents, relatives and those involved in introducing the girl and boy, give them any privacy or allow them sufficient interactions and time to decide. They want an answer after two or three meetings, which is ridiculous because no one ever really knows anyone in two or three meetings. And those meetings are going to decide the person their going to spend the rest of their lives with, seems bizarre, like playing Russian roulette with your life. But going by the number of arranged marriages in our country I guess there are a whole lot of gamblers out there.
According to me the ONLY reason to give up my freedom and independence is love.
So why do people who don’t even understand the meaning of love always insist on giving advice about marriage. I’m often confronted with over enthusiastic relations/friends who want me to have an arranged marriage and I now have a standard answer, I’m waiting for love, if it doesn’t happen I’ll die a spinster. Somehow that troubles them further, I guess people always feel if their in a mess it’s good to have company.
Now the probability of an arranged marriage or a love marriage finally working out has to do with the two people involved. Though if there is love, compromise comes naturally, also the time and energy required to make a marriage work is very similar to that required to make a relationship work, so both parties are already aware of the kind of commitment involved. And if I have to bet my life on it, I want the odds to be good.
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I’ve always been dead against arranged marriages, maybe because I’ve always been the kind of person to do exactly the opposite of what anyone was telling me to do.
So why do people agree to arranged marriages? Maybe it’s because they haven’t found the right person and aren’t sure where to look so they agree to parents finding someone suitable for them. Now while this might not be a bad idea, very rarely do parents, relatives and those involved in introducing the girl and boy, give them any privacy or allow them sufficient interactions and time to decide. They want an answer after two or three meetings, which is ridiculous because no one ever really knows anyone in two or three meetings. And those meetings are going to decide the person their going to spend the rest of their lives with, seems bizarre, like playing Russian roulette with your life. But going by the number of arranged marriages in our country I guess there are a whole lot of gamblers out there.
According to me the ONLY reason to give up my freedom and independence is love.
So why do people who don’t even understand the meaning of love always insist on giving advice about marriage. I’m often confronted with over enthusiastic relations/friends who want me to have an arranged marriage and I now have a standard answer, I’m waiting for love, if it doesn’t happen I’ll die a spinster. Somehow that troubles them further, I guess people always feel if their in a mess it’s good to have company.
Now the probability of an arranged marriage or a love marriage finally working out has to do with the two people involved. Though if there is love, compromise comes naturally, also the time and energy required to make a marriage work is very similar to that required to make a relationship work, so both parties are already aware of the kind of commitment involved. And if I have to bet my life on it, I want the odds to be good.
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Sunday, September 03, 2006
The Quarrels of Lovers are like summer storms, Everthing is more beautiful when they have passed
Ever really thought about why relationships are so hard? Is it because being alone is harder? Anyway, let’s take a moment to explore the situation further. Boy meets Girl, Boy and Girl spend time together, Boy and Girl are happy, Boy and Girl start to exclusively date, and that is when all sense goes out of the window.
Oh the illogical things people fight about, it’s quite amazing. But after having a long and interesting discussion with a close friend I think we’ve narrowed it down to a few problems which every couple has,the rest are just permutations and combinations of the same thing.
So here go the standard problems and my take on them :-
1)Girl/Boy overly possessive or not the least bit bothered - Supposedly there is an exact degree to which you have to be possessive and no further. It’s like a warning light goes off which says “Sorry my friend, you have crossed the limit, please leave, better luck next time.” So you’ve got to master this or your relationship will end before it begins.
2) Why haven’t you called me? – For some reason it never occurs to the person asking the question why he/she couldn’t pick up the phone and call if she/he didn’t receive a call. Very strange, but happens a lot.
3)Why are you always late ? – If you ever go to a shopping mall, a movie theatre or any public place like a coffee shop there will be at least one couple having this fight. In Mumbai I once saw a girl spill an entire cup of cold coffee, ice cubes and all on a guy's head for being late. So always a fun fight, but can get messy, so unless you have a change of clothes, it’s just easier to be on time.
4)You always take me for granted ! – When u hear these six words, you know its going to be a long long night. Here you have to beg and plead and promise that such behaviour will not be repeated, after all you wouldn’t like it if anyone took you for granted so that’s the only solution here. And from my experience more women have this complaint than men, though there are enough men who complain too.
5)Where is this relationship going ? –This question always reminds me of a kid on a car ride, constantly asking "Where are we going ? Where are we going ?". Now let's be honest, most people don't even have a plan for tomorrow so such profound questions are never going to be answered with any degree of clarity. I've always believed it's a bid by your partner to make you play Nostradamus.But don't get carried away , i think all their really asking is if your in it for the long haul or not. So that's one you got to figure out at break neck speed once you hear this question being thrown at you.And even then , this could take a while, because no one is really sure what they want to hear.
6)Do you find him/her more attractive than me ? – Even if the person that is being referred to is a super model, NEVER EVER answer that question with a yes, unless you want your current relationship to end. If that is your aim, then not to worry, it will self destruct in five seconds, no guarantees that you will survive.
So Best of Luck and Remember, we all stumble, every one of us. That's why it's a comfort to go hand in hand. :-)
Oh the illogical things people fight about, it’s quite amazing. But after having a long and interesting discussion with a close friend I think we’ve narrowed it down to a few problems which every couple has,the rest are just permutations and combinations of the same thing.
So here go the standard problems and my take on them :-
1)Girl/Boy overly possessive or not the least bit bothered - Supposedly there is an exact degree to which you have to be possessive and no further. It’s like a warning light goes off which says “Sorry my friend, you have crossed the limit, please leave, better luck next time.” So you’ve got to master this or your relationship will end before it begins.
2) Why haven’t you called me? – For some reason it never occurs to the person asking the question why he/she couldn’t pick up the phone and call if she/he didn’t receive a call. Very strange, but happens a lot.
3)Why are you always late ? – If you ever go to a shopping mall, a movie theatre or any public place like a coffee shop there will be at least one couple having this fight. In Mumbai I once saw a girl spill an entire cup of cold coffee, ice cubes and all on a guy's head for being late. So always a fun fight, but can get messy, so unless you have a change of clothes, it’s just easier to be on time.
4)You always take me for granted ! – When u hear these six words, you know its going to be a long long night. Here you have to beg and plead and promise that such behaviour will not be repeated, after all you wouldn’t like it if anyone took you for granted so that’s the only solution here. And from my experience more women have this complaint than men, though there are enough men who complain too.
5)Where is this relationship going ? –This question always reminds me of a kid on a car ride, constantly asking "Where are we going ? Where are we going ?". Now let's be honest, most people don't even have a plan for tomorrow so such profound questions are never going to be answered with any degree of clarity. I've always believed it's a bid by your partner to make you play Nostradamus.But don't get carried away , i think all their really asking is if your in it for the long haul or not. So that's one you got to figure out at break neck speed once you hear this question being thrown at you.And even then , this could take a while, because no one is really sure what they want to hear.
6)Do you find him/her more attractive than me ? – Even if the person that is being referred to is a super model, NEVER EVER answer that question with a yes, unless you want your current relationship to end. If that is your aim, then not to worry, it will self destruct in five seconds, no guarantees that you will survive.
So Best of Luck and Remember, we all stumble, every one of us. That's why it's a comfort to go hand in hand. :-)
Tuesday, August 29, 2006
Anyone who says sunshine brings happiness has never danced in the rain
I’ve always loved the rain, to me, the rain symbolizes new beginnings, sadness, happiness, relief, destruction, hope - Life.
As I child, I often used to sneak out of the house to play in the rain. Oh what joy it is to dance in the rain,one of the simple pleasures of life.
As I grew older the rain started to symbolize so much more, not just fun, but a time to introspect, to lie in bed under a blanket, sipping hot cocoa while the rain pelted away at the windows and just watch. Such a lovely feeling and what a lovely smell. It always made me feel grateful and content.
During my first year at college, i clearly remember the first time it rained, my friends and I ran out in the rain and got soaked. Let it suffice to say, that we could not attend any further classes for the day and I was sick for the next two days, but it was great fun.
Strangely enough, in my life the rain has always been my companion when I was sad or depressed. When I broke up with my first boyfriend as I walked away, I was glad it was raining so no one could see I was crying. And as the rain washed away my tears I was glad that I had finally gotten myself out of a destructive relationship which had made me miserable.
When I got my first job and moved to Mumbai, I was excited and impatient waiting for the rains as I had heard so much about them. Early one morning while I waited with my dad for my company bus to pick me up, all of a sudden it began to rain. As I heroically pulled out my huge umbrella, my dad watched in amusement. In 5 seconds my umbrella had been rendered totally useless by the wind. And however hard I tried, I just could not fathom how to hold it to prevent it from turning in the opposite direction. As I soon learnt, there is a technique to hold an umbrella in the rain. My dad was laughing so hard at my bemused expression that he was having difficulty giving directions. Finally, he just held my hand and tilted it so that the umbrella was pointing in the direction opposite to the direction of the wind and lo and behold my umbrella was fine. In the process we both got wet and laughed like crazy, but its one of my happiest memories of the rain.
A few months later, when I got the news that I had lost my father, as I wept in despair the skies joined me. It rained continuously for three days, from the day I got the news till the funeral was over. And as I sat in my ancestral house in kerala surrounded by hundreds of relatives who were searching for the right things to say, I kept looking out of the window at the rain and the comfort I felt just looking at the rain was so much more than listening to anything anyone had to say. Just hearing the rhythmic pitter patter and watching the droplets of rain fall to the ground and become one , made me feel in a strange way that maybe each of the tiny droplets joined together for a certain reason, maybe there was a purpose to everything after all. And as I looked out, at the dark green leaves and the red earth, I could see my father standing in the rain and smiling at me, with a look which said , don’t cry, I didn’t teach you to be strong for nothing. And suddenly I felt a sense of peace knowing that I would always be able to see my father in the rain.
As I child, I often used to sneak out of the house to play in the rain. Oh what joy it is to dance in the rain,one of the simple pleasures of life.
As I grew older the rain started to symbolize so much more, not just fun, but a time to introspect, to lie in bed under a blanket, sipping hot cocoa while the rain pelted away at the windows and just watch. Such a lovely feeling and what a lovely smell. It always made me feel grateful and content.
During my first year at college, i clearly remember the first time it rained, my friends and I ran out in the rain and got soaked. Let it suffice to say, that we could not attend any further classes for the day and I was sick for the next two days, but it was great fun.
Strangely enough, in my life the rain has always been my companion when I was sad or depressed. When I broke up with my first boyfriend as I walked away, I was glad it was raining so no one could see I was crying. And as the rain washed away my tears I was glad that I had finally gotten myself out of a destructive relationship which had made me miserable.
When I got my first job and moved to Mumbai, I was excited and impatient waiting for the rains as I had heard so much about them. Early one morning while I waited with my dad for my company bus to pick me up, all of a sudden it began to rain. As I heroically pulled out my huge umbrella, my dad watched in amusement. In 5 seconds my umbrella had been rendered totally useless by the wind. And however hard I tried, I just could not fathom how to hold it to prevent it from turning in the opposite direction. As I soon learnt, there is a technique to hold an umbrella in the rain. My dad was laughing so hard at my bemused expression that he was having difficulty giving directions. Finally, he just held my hand and tilted it so that the umbrella was pointing in the direction opposite to the direction of the wind and lo and behold my umbrella was fine. In the process we both got wet and laughed like crazy, but its one of my happiest memories of the rain.
A few months later, when I got the news that I had lost my father, as I wept in despair the skies joined me. It rained continuously for three days, from the day I got the news till the funeral was over. And as I sat in my ancestral house in kerala surrounded by hundreds of relatives who were searching for the right things to say, I kept looking out of the window at the rain and the comfort I felt just looking at the rain was so much more than listening to anything anyone had to say. Just hearing the rhythmic pitter patter and watching the droplets of rain fall to the ground and become one , made me feel in a strange way that maybe each of the tiny droplets joined together for a certain reason, maybe there was a purpose to everything after all. And as I looked out, at the dark green leaves and the red earth, I could see my father standing in the rain and smiling at me, with a look which said , don’t cry, I didn’t teach you to be strong for nothing. And suddenly I felt a sense of peace knowing that I would always be able to see my father in the rain.
Saturday, August 26, 2006
The Search
Have you ever felt so alone...so completely alone...like you are the only one...
Loneliness is not about not having people around you... its about sitting in a room full of people and feeling like you don't belong...like you can talk but you don't know the language....alien words which have no meaning...
I look around... the room is crowded...i say something... but everyone ignores me....i try again...then i scream, but no one can hear me.... the silence envelopes me and threatens to drown me... i gasp and shake my head...my head throbs..i feel like its going to explode...my ears are ringing...i scream again.. but no one hears me... no one at all...
I have a million questions but no answers...a million thoughts and conflicts but no solutions...a million pens but no paper...a million wishes but no fairy god mother...a million dreams but no idea how to make them come true...
When will i find that some one... the one who knows when i'm calling..the one who knows when i'm hurting...the one who feels my pain...the one who knows when to hold my hand... the one who understands me... the one who makes me feel safe...the one who will make all this go away...
Will i ever feel complete... will i ever stop looking for that face...will i ever find my soulmate...
Am i the only one who was made in this mould...does the other half exist... is it a figment of my imagination...
Will i know when i meet that someone... will i know that i need to look no further...or will i continue to search for the impossible...will this remain an eternal search for the non-existent...
Loneliness is not about not having people around you... its about sitting in a room full of people and feeling like you don't belong...like you can talk but you don't know the language....alien words which have no meaning...
I look around... the room is crowded...i say something... but everyone ignores me....i try again...then i scream, but no one can hear me.... the silence envelopes me and threatens to drown me... i gasp and shake my head...my head throbs..i feel like its going to explode...my ears are ringing...i scream again.. but no one hears me... no one at all...
I have a million questions but no answers...a million thoughts and conflicts but no solutions...a million pens but no paper...a million wishes but no fairy god mother...a million dreams but no idea how to make them come true...
When will i find that some one... the one who knows when i'm calling..the one who knows when i'm hurting...the one who feels my pain...the one who knows when to hold my hand... the one who understands me... the one who makes me feel safe...the one who will make all this go away...
Will i ever feel complete... will i ever stop looking for that face...will i ever find my soulmate...
Am i the only one who was made in this mould...does the other half exist... is it a figment of my imagination...
Will i know when i meet that someone... will i know that i need to look no further...or will i continue to search for the impossible...will this remain an eternal search for the non-existent...
Monday, August 21, 2006
Dad
He always made me smile,
He always had his own style,
Helped me take my first step,
Was there to hold me when I leapt,
Held my hand when I nearly fell,
Carried me when I wasn’t well,
Laughed with me when I lost my teeth,
Threatened to box my ears when I wasn't sweet,
Made fun of me, when I acted silly,
Bought me a dog named, Milly,
Was anxious when I came home late,
Scolded me, when I broke a plate,
Taught me how to swim,
Bought me presents on a whim,
Worried when I wasn't well,
Waited at my school till the bell,
Taught me right from wrong,
Taught me how to be strong,
Made an attempt to teach me math,
Decided to leave it at that,
Picked me up when I fell down,
Taught me how to trudge along,
Listened to me when I talked,
Was very troubled when I got stalked,
Took care of me when I was weak,
Gave me hope when I thought things looked bleak,
Wondered whether I had a phone attached to my ear,
Was quite sure that I couldn’t hear,
Looked concerned when someone broke my heart,
Offered to take him apart,
Gave me a gentle nudge so I would explore,
Told me that there were special things in store,
Smiled when I tried to sing,
Gave me courage to face new things,
Comforted me when I was sad,
And protected me from all that’s bad,
Soothed all my fears,
And wiped my tears,
Bought me lots of books to read,
Was kind to me in every deed,
Danced with me when I had two left feet,
Taught me how to handle defeat,
Held my hand when I was in pain,
Taught me how to hold an umbrella in the rain,
Was proud of me when I got my first job,
Taught me how to eat corn on the cob,
Encouraged me when I tried my wings,
Told me all what life has to bring,
Talked to me about everything under the sun,
Made me feel like the party had just begun,
I wish he didn't have to go away,
I know a part of me died that day,
And life will never be the same,
Somehow everything seems so lame.
-Poppy.
Dedicated in the memory of my father, who taught me so much and whom I miss more and more with each passing day….
He always had his own style,
Helped me take my first step,
Was there to hold me when I leapt,
Held my hand when I nearly fell,
Carried me when I wasn’t well,
Laughed with me when I lost my teeth,
Threatened to box my ears when I wasn't sweet,
Made fun of me, when I acted silly,
Bought me a dog named, Milly,
Was anxious when I came home late,
Scolded me, when I broke a plate,
Taught me how to swim,
Bought me presents on a whim,
Worried when I wasn't well,
Waited at my school till the bell,
Taught me right from wrong,
Taught me how to be strong,
Made an attempt to teach me math,
Decided to leave it at that,
Picked me up when I fell down,
Taught me how to trudge along,
Listened to me when I talked,
Was very troubled when I got stalked,
Took care of me when I was weak,
Gave me hope when I thought things looked bleak,
Wondered whether I had a phone attached to my ear,
Was quite sure that I couldn’t hear,
Looked concerned when someone broke my heart,
Offered to take him apart,
Gave me a gentle nudge so I would explore,
Told me that there were special things in store,
Smiled when I tried to sing,
Gave me courage to face new things,
Comforted me when I was sad,
And protected me from all that’s bad,
Soothed all my fears,
And wiped my tears,
Bought me lots of books to read,
Was kind to me in every deed,
Danced with me when I had two left feet,
Taught me how to handle defeat,
Held my hand when I was in pain,
Taught me how to hold an umbrella in the rain,
Was proud of me when I got my first job,
Taught me how to eat corn on the cob,
Encouraged me when I tried my wings,
Told me all what life has to bring,
Talked to me about everything under the sun,
Made me feel like the party had just begun,
I wish he didn't have to go away,
I know a part of me died that day,
And life will never be the same,
Somehow everything seems so lame.
-Poppy.
Dedicated in the memory of my father, who taught me so much and whom I miss more and more with each passing day….
Sunday, August 13, 2006
Love this Song ! :-)
Faraway -Nickelback
This time, This place
Misused, Mistakes
Too long, Too late
Who was I to make you wait
Just one chance
Just one breath
Just in case there's just one left
'Cause you know, you know, you know
[CHORUS]
That I love you
I have loved you all along
And I miss you
Been far away for far too long
I keep dreaming you'll be with me
and you'll never go
Stop breathing
if I don't see you anymore
On my knees I'll ask
Last chance for one last dance
'Cause with you,
I'd withstand All of hell to hold your hand
I'd give it all
I'd give for us
Give anything
but I won't give up
'Cause you know, you know, you know
[CHORUS]
So far away
Been far away
for far too long
So far away
Been far away for far too long
But you know, you know, you know
I wanted I wanted you to stay
'Cause I needed
I need to hear you say
That I love you
I have loved you all along
And I forgive you
For being away for far too long
So keep breathing
'Cause I'm not leaving you anymore
Believe it
Hold on to me and,
never let me go
Keep breathing
'Cause I'm not leaving you anymore
Believe it
Hold on to me and,
never let me go
Keep breathing
Hold on to me and,
never let me go
Keep breathing
Hold on to me and,
never let me go
This time, This place
Misused, Mistakes
Too long, Too late
Who was I to make you wait
Just one chance
Just one breath
Just in case there's just one left
'Cause you know, you know, you know
[CHORUS]
That I love you
I have loved you all along
And I miss you
Been far away for far too long
I keep dreaming you'll be with me
and you'll never go
Stop breathing
if I don't see you anymore
On my knees I'll ask
Last chance for one last dance
'Cause with you,
I'd withstand All of hell to hold your hand
I'd give it all
I'd give for us
Give anything
but I won't give up
'Cause you know, you know, you know
[CHORUS]
So far away
Been far away
for far too long
So far away
Been far away for far too long
But you know, you know, you know
I wanted I wanted you to stay
'Cause I needed
I need to hear you say
That I love you
I have loved you all along
And I forgive you
For being away for far too long
So keep breathing
'Cause I'm not leaving you anymore
Believe it
Hold on to me and,
never let me go
Keep breathing
'Cause I'm not leaving you anymore
Believe it
Hold on to me and,
never let me go
Keep breathing
Hold on to me and,
never let me go
Keep breathing
Hold on to me and,
never let me go
Wednesday, June 07, 2006
Life is not measured by the numbers of breaths you take, but by the moments that take your breath away
The Sun goes down, yet its warmth lingers on the land,
The tide recedes, leaving bright sea shells in the sand,
The music stops, yet it echoes on in sweet refrains,
For every joy that passes, Something Beautiful Remains.
The tide recedes, leaving bright sea shells in the sand,
The music stops, yet it echoes on in sweet refrains,
For every joy that passes, Something Beautiful Remains.
Tuesday, May 30, 2006
Thot for the Day
Love is not a single act, but a climate in which we live,
A lifetime venture in which we are always learning, discovering , growing,
it is not destroyed by a single failure,
or won by a single caress,
Love is a climate -
A climate of the heart !
A lifetime venture in which we are always learning, discovering , growing,
it is not destroyed by a single failure,
or won by a single caress,
Love is a climate -
A climate of the heart !
Sunday, May 28, 2006
Thot for the Day
There is nothing like returning to a place that remains unchanged to find the ways in which you yourself have altered.
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